In 2003, bestselling author and relationship expert Michele Weiner Davis' groundbreaking book, The Sex-Starved Marriage described the problems that occur in marriage when one spouse is vastly more interested in sex than the other and more importantly, what the couple could do to fix things. The book created quite a stir, but no one expected what happened next.
Weiner Davis was flooded with e-mails, letters, and phone calls from women, not with "headaches" and other predictable excuses for avoiding sex, but from women who were desperately unhappy because their husbands weren't the least bit interested in sex. Nothing these women said or did got their men to understand the pain and isolation that comes from a sexual void, and despite heartfelt pleas, they were unable to convince their husbands to seek professional help. Add to this the unspoken taboo about discussing low libido in men, and these women were left to believe that they were the only ones dealing with this problem.
If this sounds like your situation, Weiner Davis wants to tell you that you are not alone, and it is not your fault: there is a whole host of reasons why your husband might be experiencing low desire. Although Weiner Davis explains reasons men lose interest in sex--biological issues, personal troubles, and relationship problems--she's convinced that understanding the cause of a problem won't make your sex life any juicier; doing something about it will. The Sex-Starved Wife gives you the tools you need to present the information in the book so that your husband will not become defensive. You'll even learn methods for overcoming sexual dysfunctions such as performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and effective ways for dealing with pornography or infidelity. If you and your spouse need additional support, Weiner Davis offers concrete advice on how to get your man to visit his doctor or seek other professional help.
When it comes to marriage, Weiner Davis has seen it all. She knows how important loving, satisfying sex is to a healthy marriage. The straightforward, psychobabble-free advice in this book will help you create the intimacy and connection for which you've been longing.
Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, is an internationally renowned relationship expert and author of several books including The Divorce Remedy, the bestselling Divorce Busting, A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man, Change Your Life and Everyone in It, and In Search of Solutions. She has appeared as a regular guest on Oprah, 48 Hours, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, and taped a seminar on PBS entitled Keeping Love Alive. A therapist in private practice specializing in Solution-Oriented Brief Therapy, her highly-acclaimed workshops have earned her national recognition. She lives in Illinois with her husband of over thirty years.
The Sex-Starved Wife is a long overdue book that will dispel the commonly held myth that men are always the more highly sexed spouse. Millions of sexy women feel shame believing they're the only ones whose husbands aren't interested in sex. By shedding light on this important subject and offering tools for boosting desire, Weiner Davis will help couples move from emotional and physical distance to building more loving and passionate sexual relationships.
--Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find
ÒPut on a pot of coffee and curl up in your chair, because reading The Sex-Starved Wife is like sitting down to chat with your closest--and wisest-- friend about your most intimate secrets. Michele Weiner Davis explores previously un-chartered territories to help women restore intimacy in their relationships. Wise, warm and comprehensive in her approach, Michelle delivers what so many women need in a loving and compassionate way. And when you finish reading this book, leave it on your husband's night table, because this is a must-read for men and women.Ó --Scott Haltzman, MD, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women and The Secrets of Happily Married Men
"Michele Weiner Davis shines a light inside the American bedroom and takes us 'undercovers' to reveal the truth of low male desire. If you're in a relationship with a guy who's tuned out and turned off, take heart: The Sex-Starved Wife will provide you with a clear course of action to get him tuned in and turned on."
--Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of She Comes First and Passionista: the Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man
"In this breakthrough book Michele Weiner Davis gives us a refreshing-pro-sexual and pro-marriage approach to women seeking to revitalize their husband's desire with a plethora of good information, good strategies, and good techniques. Michele emphasizes working out the sexual issues together and offers realistic hope for change. I highly recommend The Sex Starved Wife as the best book in the field to confront the very real problem of male inhibited sexual desire and avoidance."
--Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., professor of psychology at American University, certified sex and marital therapist, and author of Men's Sexual Health
"You must read this all important book; a vindication for men; a milestone event for women -- and a victory for marriage. This is the best book you can read in one sitting. Powerful, poignant, precisely to the point."
--Dr. Pat Love Author of Hot Monogamy and co-author of How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
"Weiner Davis has been helping couples for decades. It's wonderful that she's now bringing her solution-focused expertise to a rarely discussed but painfully common problem, low sexual desire in husbands. If you are struggling with a sexual divide in your marriage, buy this book. Your love life- and your marriage- depends on it!"
--Diane Sollee, founder and director, Smartmarriages.com
If you think that women are the only ones saying "no" to sex, think again. Millions of men have little desire to be intimate with their wives. The problem is, no one is talking about it. Until now. This gutsy book reveals the truth about what goes on behind closed doors and what couples can do to bridge the desire gap.
John Gray, author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus