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Bow Down

Lessons from Dominatrixes on How to Get Everything You Want

Introduction by Lindsay Goldwert / Read by Lisa Flanagan

*One of Glamour’s Best Books of 2020*

Popular podcast host and personal finance expert Lindsay Goldwert explores what professional dominatrixes can teach us about confidence, power, and happiness.

Imagine, for a moment, a world where the usual power dynamic is turned on its head. Where women not only stop apologizing, but seize—and enjoy—control. This is the quickly mainstreaming world of BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism)—and it has a lot to teach women about empowerment, negotiation, open-mindedness, and more. Journalist Lindsay Goldwert, intrigued by this seismic cultural shift, traveled across the United States to meet the stars of the subculture, who spoke frankly with her about their lives and work.

In this “lively, funny, thoughtful channeling of wisdom” (Sara Benincasa, author of Real Artists Have Day Jobs), these Alpha women show you how you can reset the power dynamic in any situation to get what you want—whether it’s from a husband, a boss, or partner. They share strategies for revolutionizing not only your sex life, but your career, your relationships, and most importantly, your inner foundations.

With bondage gear popping up on the big screen, the runway, the red carpet, and in celebrity lingerie lines, BDSM is officially moving out of the dungeon and into the sun. Let Bow Down help you learn how to use it. “Whether your fantasies lie in the bedroom or the boardroom, Lindsay will give you the courage to go forth and dominate.” (Sarah Cooper, author of How to Be Successful without Hurting Men’s Feelings).

Photograph by Mindy Tucker

Lindsay Goldwert is a journalist and former editorial director of the personal finance app Stash. She also created the podcasts Teach Me How to Money, a top 100 Business Apple podcast, and SPENT, a podcast for the financially challenged that has been featured in The Atlantic, The A.V. Club, The Globe and Mail (Toronto), and others. She has worked as a journalist for more than fifteen years at Glamour, Redbook, CourtTV, ABC News, CBS News, and Daily News (New York). Her writing has appeared in Quartz, AdWeek, Refinery29, Fast Company, Slate, and others. She’s also a stand-up comic who performs all over New York City and has appeared on multiple panels as a speaker and moderator on women and finance, financial education, and more.

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