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You Don't Have to Take it Anymore

Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One

About The Book

As many as one-third of all American women tiptoe through life as if they are walking on eggshells -- at home, they spend most of their time trying to avoid criticism, anger, put-downs, or cold shoulders from their husbands or boyfriends. This verbal and emotional abuse can erupt over anything and everything, matters large and small: housework, cooking, work, spending money, buying household items and clothes for the kids, and going out. Clearly, verbal and emotional abuse is a serious problem.

Relationship expert Dr. Steven Stosny has been featured on national media for the revolutionary techniques he uses in his Compassion-Power and Boot Camp programs, which help men rewire their resentment and anger, stop using emotionally abusive language and behavior, and compassionately recommit to their marriages and families.

Now, in You Don't Have to Take It Anymore, Dr. Stosny puts his effective, highly sought-after program into print, making it widely available for the first time for women who want to stop walking on eggshells. Drawing on his seventeen years of experience treating thousands of clients, Dr. Stosny explains the many different forms a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship can take. He explains how to identify abuse and why it's important to take action to change the relationship -- for not only is verbal and emotional abuse monumentally destructive to both the adults in the relationship, it also hurts their children. Dr. Stosny shows women and men how to apply his methods at home, shows women how to get their men to change, and demonstrates how they can know if change is permanent. Additionally, Dr. Stosny's program helps women recover from the pain and abuse by practicing self-healing skills so that they can reclaim their natural sense of competence and confidence. Using language that is more compassionate and accessible than in any other book on relationship abuse -- and different tactics from most other therapies and therapists -- You Don't Have to Take It Anymore presents a practical program that both women and men can use to stop verbal and emotional abuse.

About The Author

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Steven Stosny, PhD, has treated more than 4,000 people for various relationship problems through CompassionPower, the organization he founded and has directed for more than twelve years. His textbook, Treating Attachment Abuse: A Compassionate Approach, set a new standard for understanding and treating family abuse and is widely used in therapeutic settings in the United States and abroad. Dr. Stosny has authored many articles and chapters in professional books and has been quoted by, or been the subject of articles in, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Washington Times, Chicago Tribune, U.S. News & World Report, The Wall Street Journal, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen, Mademoiselle, Women's World, O: The Oprah Magazine, Psychology Today, AP, Reuters, and USA Today. He has also appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and other national television shows.

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Raves and Reviews

"This book is revolutionary, compassionate, clear, practical, and generous. Revolutionary and compassionate in that it will change forever the way we understand emotional abuse and the heart of the abuser. Clear and practical in that it gives easy-to-follow, step-by-step guidelines for recovery. Generous in that it's all there -- the whole approach. Nothing else to buy. I highly recommend it to couples and to anyone working with couples."

-- Diane Sollee, founder and director, Coalition for Marriage, Family & Couples Education,

"No other book gives such help and hope to relationships plagued by emotional and verbal abuse. Written with compassion, You Don't Have to Take It Anymore is a gift to you as well as the people you love."

-- Pat Love, EdD, author of The Truth About Love and Hot Monogamy

"In these pages, Stosny breaks the code of family violence and provides family members from all walks of life with a Rosetta stone on how to act and be different. His program is remarkable because it works. Simply stated, this book has a profound chance of changing family violence forever."

-- Terry Hargrave, PhD, author of Forgiving the Devil and Professor of Counseling, West Texas A&M University

"This stunning book will touch men and women in powerful and different ways. A hard-nosed yet compassionate and hopeful look into the heart of toxic resentment in marriage. No married man or woman who reads this book carefully will be the same afterward."

-- William J. Doherty, PhD, Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Minnesota, author of Take Back Your Marriage

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