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About The Book
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LOVE AND DUTY COLLIDE?
DAN RILEY IS A MAJOR IN THE BRITISH ARMY. After a six-month tour of duty in Afghanistan, he is coming home to the wife and young daughters he adores. He’s up for promotion and his ex-Army grandfather and father couldn’t be prouder. The Rileys are united in support of Dan’s passion for his career.
But are they really? His wife, Alexa, has been offered a good teaching job she can’t take because the Army may move the family at any time. Her daughter Isabel hates her boarding school—the only good educational option for Army families—and starts running away. And Dan spends all his time on the base, unable to break the strong bonds forged with his friends in battle. Soon everyone who knows the Rileys is trying to help them save their marriage, but it’s up to Alexa to decide if she can sacrifice her needs and those of her family to support Dan’s commitment to his work.
With her trademark intelligence and grace, Joanna Trollope illuminates the complexities of modern life in this story of a family striving to balance duty and ambition.
Excerpt
Even before her eyes were open, Isabel could tell that the house was awake. The water was thumping away in the pipes behind the wall in her bedroom, as it had done ever since Maintenance—now contracted out to some civilian firm in Liverpool that Isabel had heard her mother say was useless—had come to stop the shower leaking, and she could also hear the twins twittering away somewhere, in the sort of birdspeak they had developed for private communication.
It was annoying, really. It was annoying to be the last awake, and not the first. Isabel had discovered that if she could steal a march on the day—even by fifteen minutes—she could manage it better, get a grip on herself. At school—best, really, not to think about school if she could help it—she had devised this method of taking charge of herself deliberately and methodically, as a way of dealing with homesickness. Wake before everyone else, go through the wretched mental photo gallery of home and Mum and the twins and the dog, and the smells museum of the kitchen and Mum’s sweater drawer and the awkward cupboard where the bed linen lived, whose door would never shut, then gulp, sniff, wipe eyes, sit up, and breathe. Breathe and breathe. Eyes shut, then eyes open. Swallow. Find hairbrush and begin to brush, reminding herself how amazingly lucky she was to have long, thick, straight hair and not the curly or frizzy kind that got you despised for something that you couldn’t possibly be blamed for in the first place. Put hairbrush back. One more deep breath. Up.
Isabel put her fingers lightly across her eyelids, and opened her eyes slowly behind them. She was not, of course, at school. She was at home, in her own bedroom, at number seven, the Quadrant, Larkford Camp, Wiltshire, which had been home now for nearly two years. Before that home had been a bit in Germany, and a bit in Yorkshire and a bit in London, and before that, when it was just Mum and Isabel on their own, a bit in another part of London in a high-up flat with the top of a tree right outside the windows, which Isabel believed she remembered with a passionate nostalgia. There’d also been schools to go with all these places, school after school.
“Five schools by year six,” Mum had said to Isabel, trying to make the case for boarding school. “It’s too much. It’s too much for you. It isn’t fair. You make friends and then you move and lose them. Don’t you think you’d rather have continuity, even if it means sleeping away from home?”
Isabel didn’t know. Even now, technically settled into boarding school, she didn’t know. She wanted to feel steadier, she wanted to please, she understood that if Dan got a promotion they might move again—but then, if he didn’t, if they didn’t, why was it necessary for her to be away from home when home wasn’t, after all, changing? And then there were the twins. The twins went to a local nursery school, and when they were five would go to the local primary.
“But the twins—” Isabel began.
Mum looked at her. Isabel could see she understood and hadn’t got a real answer. She just said, “We—can’t plan, you see. Not if we want to stay together. As a family. But if you go to boarding school, at least you know—I know—that one thing, at least, will go on as before. That’s all.”
In Isabel’s experience, it was only the small things that went on as before, like the smell of the linen cupboard and the twins’ refusal to eat anything orange and the way one fingernail on her left hand grew at a very slight angle. The big stuff, like what was going to happen next, to all of them, was always a giant question mark hanging in the air, affecting everything, every mood. And even when the question mark was answered, it was always replaced by another one. Like today. Today was a big day, a day they had been looking forward to for six months, a day that was circled on the kitchen calendar, and for which the twins had made a huge messy paper banner randomly stuck with patches of shiny colored paper and scraps of pink feather from a dressing-up boa.
Today, Dan was coming home from Afghanistan, with his whole battery. That, Isabel knew, meant about a hundred soldiers. Plus Dan. Plus all the other soldiers, from the other batteries, from the regiment. Planes and planes of them, all coming home together, in transports like flying sardine cans, Dan said, only huge. So Dan’s coming home took away the question mark of would he be killed or wounded while he was away, which was a huge relief because Dan had always been kind to Isabel, and she appreciated that. But now there was another question mark in place of the would-Dan-be-killed one, and that, although not as awful, was still a deep anxiety.
Isabel took her hands away from her face and stared hard at the ceiling above her. People at school talked about what might happen to their soldier fathers a lot. Nobody was supposed to look at or listen to the news at school, but people did, all the same, and then whispered about it. There’d been a helicopter crash in Afghanistan last term, and the radio announcer had said, “All killed. The relatives have been informed,” and Libby Guthrie, whose father was in the Army Flying Corps and who had gone quite white, said, “Oh, phew. Relatives have been told. So we’re OK, then.” They’d all screamed then, and got hysterical with relief, jumping about with their arms round each other, and Isabel had felt an intense, brief, heady sensation of belonging.
But she didn’t feel that now. She felt very separate and very apprehensive. Dan was coming home and Mum would be thrilled and the twins would be thrilled, and she would be pleased. But what, the new question mark asked, would he be like?
In the kitchen, Alexa had the fridge door open. The interior was immaculate, the contents arranged with precision and by category. The kitchen floor—Army-issue vinyl printed to resemble outdated Italian floor tiles—shone. So did the windows. The walls, which she had painted pale blue herself, although she knew she would have to return them to magnolia when they left the quarter, were smear-free except for the twins’ exuberant Welcome Home Daddy poster. There were flowers on the table, the tea towels were ironed, and her hair, still damp from the shower, had possibly never been cleaner. Her friend Mo had been round the evening before on her way to an Army Benevolent Fund early Christmas fair—“Twenty quid for tepid curry with the Old and Bold—you’re so lucky you can’t get a babysitter and come with me”—and had shouted with laughter at the flawless state of the house.
“God, we’re pathetic. What do we think we’re doing? Last time Baz got back from exercise he was completely, utterly filthy, and as rank as a polecat, and there I was, spotless in every crevice, not a hair on my body. I ask you!”
Alexa said, surveying her manicured hands—no varnish, but no torn cuticles, either—“I suppose it’s relief. And excitement. And—” She stopped.
“And what?”
“Army habit. Keeping up appearances. Smart at all times.”
Mo gave herself a quick glance in Alexa’s hall mirror. She pulled down the hem of her embroidered sweater. “I should be wearing a dress. To satisfy the Old and Bold. They’ll be in Jaeger and regimental brooches, comme toujours.”
“You look great,” Alexa said.
“Better on a horse, though. It disguises my low center of gravity.” She leaned forward and gave Alexa a quick kiss. “I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow. It’ll be weird but wonderful. Have a row to clear the air as soon as you can—it’ll get him out of his cave. We usually schedule it for day four.”
Alexa picked a booklet out of a tidy pile on the hall table, and held it out. “That’s what Welfare recommend, only more circumspectly.”
“What on earth’s that?”
“Homecoming,” Alexa said. “Welfare briefing on how to manage men going away and then men coming back again.”
Mo didn’t try to take it. “What a hoot.”
“None of it’s a hoot.”
There was a small pause, and then Mo opened the front door. She blew Alexa a second kiss. “But we have to get on with it, don’t we? The house looks a peach and so do you. Lucky Major Riley.”
The door had slammed behind her, and Alexa heard the second slam of her car door, and then the car reversing and roaring away as if she were late to catch a train. Dan said Mo was at her happiest in an emergency, and Alexa had opened her mouth to say that maybe the visible and urgent expenditure of energy was more like a coping mechanism, and had then, for no reason she was very proud of, shut it again. Dan admired people who coped in emergencies. Emergencies were, after all, what he was trained for. And that was just one of the many things she had had to learn.
Something else she had learned now lay before her in the fridge. The food for a man sated with nourishment in foil pouches. Simple proteins—steak, chicken—beers, fruit and vegetables, powerfully mature Cheddar. He would probably eat nothing for a day or two—although the beers would vanish and no doubt much of the bottle of supermarket whisky she had bought—and then he would eat ravenously, whatever straightforward, un-messed-about food she put in front of him, liberally doused in Tabasco sauce. The British Army, she sometimes thought, could absorb as much Tabasco sauce as Avery Island, Louisiana, could produce. The twins played shops with the rinsed-out miniature Tabasco bottles provided in every twenty-four-hour Army ration pack—dozens of them, perfect replicas of the originals down to the McIlhenny label. Alexa pictured soldierly insides glowing and fire-hardened from years of pepper sauce which reduced everything, in her view, to a blazing similarity. Which was, perhaps, what soldiers wanted—a hot, peppery mush you could shovel in straight from the microwave or a pan of hot water. Certainly, if you shopped in the little supermarket which served the blocks behind the wire where over three thousand single soldiers lived, the freshest item you’d find there would be a foot-long sausage roll—no preparation, no unfamiliarity, no need for cutlery.
The fridge let out a bleat of alarm at being left open so long. Alexa gave a little start and banged it shut. What was she doing, standing gazing at marshaled rows of yogurt pots with wet hair and none of the children either dressed or breakfasted? She was doing, she supposed, what her mother had done before every diplomatic party, checking and rechecking, feeling faintly sick and distinctly choked with anxious expectation, and possessed by a simultaneous conviction that she could not cope with what lay ahead and nor could she cope with it not happening.
She crossed to the window and held on to the edge of the sink below it. Rough autumn grass—she had mown it, she hoped for the last time that year, three weeks ago—stretched from the front of the house to the ragged hedge which separated them, and the house they were attached to, from the narrow asphalted road that ran round the Quadrant. There was a big circle of grass in the middle of the Quadrant, and a clump of beech trees through which the unmistakable figure of the Brigadier’s wife—small, upright, and purposeful—was making her way with two liver-and-white spaniels at her heels. She was the only officer’s wife in the regiment, Alexa thought, not to have Labradors—black Labradors—but she had grown up with spaniels, she said, she understood them. She also had cats.
“Pansy animals, possibly,” she once said to Alexa. “But bright. I like a clever creature.”
Alexa turned her head. Behind her, keeping a watchful eye but not moving until instructed, was Dan’s black Labrador, Beetle. He was not a clever creature, but he was biddable, kind, and reliable. He was also the first dog Alexa had ever lived with, having had a wandering diplomatic upbringing that never seemed to allow for more pets than a tank, once, of tiny turtles, which had proved, after the initial wonder at their size and perfection, to be no more interesting to own than a box of slightly animated stones. Beetle was the first living thing Dan had introduced to Alexa—before any friend, before his father—and he had also proved to be the route that Isabel could take to accepting that Dan was here to stay in their lives, in a role she only really associated with a photograph.
“Good dog,” Alexa said.
Beetle’s tail moved very slightly in polite acknowledgment. He was perhaps the only one in the house whose reaction to Dan’s return would be entirely uncomplicated. Even the twins, Alexa could not be entirely sure of. Dan had been away once for only a month’s training, in Canada, when they were not yet two, and when he returned and swooped down to hug them they had been terrified of this unfamiliar giant and fled shrieking behind Alexa. Dan had been devastated. Alexa had found him in their then German garden, on a broken bench, his head in his hands, not able or inclined to be reasonable. It was a week before Tassy, the bolder of the twins, had instructed him to bathe her. And another week before Flora had silently offered him her shoes to put on. And all that time, Dan hardly spoke. He wasn’t sulking, he was just somewhere else—“in the zone,” he called it—and there was nothing for Alexa to do but wait.
This time, of course, she had waited for six months. She had looked after the children, walked Beetle, cooked and cleaned, serviced the car and the lawn mower and the disobliging central-heating boiler; she had mopped up the girlfriends of the junior officers, who had frequently not even met their boyfriends’ parents, cut the grass, watched countless DVDs in the evenings, joined in endless small female social diversions in the days—“He’s in the Army,” her father had said with forced joviality when she told him she had decided to marry Dan, “so you’ll end up an Army wife, measuring out your days in coffee spoons!”; she had tried not to write daily emails to Dan, and certainly not ones that even hinted at the bizarre mixture of feeling both trapped and insecure that haunted her, and was never separated from her telephone.
Once a week, there’d been a satellite phone call to Dan, in Afghanistan. If there was any crisis or sudden action, all the communications would shut down, and if you missed your turn, you missed it and were rewarded with a particular intensity of anxiety that persisted until the men were permitted to communicate again. Worries about Isabel’s misery at school, about Flora’s lazy eye (she wore miniature spectacles with a patch over one lens which gave her a sweetly scholarly air), about the lump on Beetle’s side had to be choked down even if the phone connection worked, because Dan was mentally in another place, on quite another planet. This tour, he hadn’t even taken photographs of them all, nor the drawings the twins had done for him.
“I can’t bear to,” he said. He was standing among the precise piles of his kit, in their bedroom. “I couldn’t look at them last time, and I felt a shit because I couldn’t. So, better not to take them.” He gave a half laugh. “I feel shit about enough, as it is.”
As well as those calls—as vital as they were unsatisfactory—Alexa rang her girlfriends on the camp daily. She rang Mo, and Franny and Sara and Prue. She also rang Dan’s father once a week, out of affection, and her own parents, out of duty. And she rang Jack. She rang Jack almost as often as Jack rang her, which was every day or two.
Jack Dearlove had been in Alexa’s life since she was seven. His father had been a minor diplomat, like hers, and their peripatetic careers had brought their children together, quite by chance, in several postings, the last of which was Bonn, just before both Jack and Alexa went off to university. And at his university—Newcastle—Jack had made a friend, a close, slightly older friend, whom he had introduced to Alexa in a jazz café on the Fulham Road which specialized in live music. The friend was called Richard Maybrick, and it was his photograph, taken on a walking holiday in France with his hair ruffled and his teeth gleaming in a wide, untroubled smile, that his daughter, Isabel, kept on her chest of drawers at number seven, the Quadrant, Larkford Camp.
Richard Maybrick had died of a brain tumor in the neurological hospital in Queen Square, in London, when Isabel was only a baby. The tumor was diagnosed when he was twenty-six and his wife, Alexa, was pregnant with their first child, and it killed him eighteen months later. Throughout those months, the stocky, comfortable figure of Jack Dearlove was never far away. He was there after the consultations, he was there after every intense and terrifying bout of treatment, he was there when Alexa came out of Richard’s last hospital room and said, bleakly, “It’s over.”
Alexa’s parents supposed that their daughter would then, after a decent interval, become Mrs. Dearlove. Alexa’s mother, who had always minded very much about appearances, had even commented upon what an attractive surname it was. Preferable, actually, she said carelessly, to Maybrick. But Alexa, although she saw so much that was lovable in Jack’s warmth and dependability and sturdy set of principles, saw nothing either romantic or exciting in him. In any case, Jack himself, devoted as he was to his mate Richard’s widow and baby, was in love with an Ethiopian model of startling, etiolated beauty, whom he captured, and married, and then lost again, but never ceased to yearn for. He became, as Alexa’s friend Franny put it, the perfect brother-friend. He had seen Alexa through Richard’s illness and death. She had seen him through Eka’s surrender, and then flight—insofar as he would let her. He was designed, Alexa knew, to pick up the scattered and shattered pieces of humans other than himself.
He’d picked her up often enough, after all, quietly materializing just when she needed him, with the extraordinary faithful reliability of the best kind of sister in a Jane Austen novel. In fact, she often thought, he represented a continuity of presence and support in her life that, quite literally, no one else had been able to. Not girlfriends. Not even Dan. Jack had always been there, even when he was physically in London, a sort of cheerful, dependable, affectionate human handrail.
He had rung early that morning, before he set off on one of his runs. He was always running, or spinning, or lifting weights, at the gym in Chiswick, near his flat. It was, as he cheerfully admitted, all part of the endless battle he waged with his weight, having inherited his father’s lack of height and his mother’s lack of a usefully swift metabolism.
“I just look at a doughnut,” he’d say, “and it immediately adds itself to my outline.”
That morning, he’d greeted Alexa with “Sick as a parrot, are you?”
Alexa, on her way to the shower, shampoo bottle in hand, had smiled into the telephone. “Sicker.”
“Exciting, though.”
“Yes.”
“Are you in a corset and fishnets?”
“I’m a mother of three,” Alexa said. “In a fleece dressing gown that my grandfather-in-law chose for me himself, last Christmas, in Elys department store on Wimbledon High Street.”
“Elys, eh?”
“He likes it there,” Alexa said. “He doesn’t like anything too up-to-date, like coffee shops. On the third floor in Elys, they give you strong tea in a metal pot, and a toasted tea cake. Just the one, to be eaten slowly.”
“I hope you’ll eat. Breakfast, I mean.”
“Thank you, Nanny, but I couldn’t possibly. It’ll be coffee with a longing look at the brandy bottle.”
Jack said, in mock amazement, “You have brandy?”
“And weed killer.”
“Wow,” Jack said. “You live life to the full, down in Wiltshire.”
“We do,” Alexa said, “the fleece dressing gown and me. And now I’m going to wash my hair.”
Jack’s tone changed. “I’ll be thinking of you.”
“Please do.”
“Ring me tomorrow.”
“Of course.”
“And a high five to the old hero.”
Alexa dropped her phone into her pocket, and then dropped the dressing gown off her shoulders. She stepped into the shower—tiles on the wall were missing and the plastic tray at the bottom had a fine, wavering crack across it—and found herself humming. Talking to Jack was like finding a forgotten fiver in the fruit bowl. He never failed to make her feel better.
“Mummy?”
Alexa turned from the sink. Isabel, in the outgrown nightie patterned with cherries that she insisted on still wearing, was standing in the doorway.
“Hi, darling.”
“I feel a bit weird.”
“We all do.”
Isabel drifted towards the table and leaned on it. Beetle sat up in his basket, wagging, and waited for her to notice him.
“D’you think Dan does?”
“He probably feels weirder than anyone. Camp Bastion, then up to the airhead, and then twenty-four hours in Cyprus, and then home.”
Isabel wound herself along the table edge until she was opposite Beetle’s basket. His tail was a blur of wagging. She knelt beside him and put her arms round his neck. Alexa said, “Try not to let him lick you.”
“I like it. What happens in Cyprus?”
“It’s called decompression. They get a shave and a shower and a comedy show and something like a barbecue—”
Isabel closed her eyes so that Beetle could make a thorough job of washing her face. “Do they get drunk?”
“I don’t know, darling. I think they’re only allowed five cans each.”
“And then be sick?”
“Izzy, might I persuade you to have some breakfast?”
Isabel unlocked her arms and got to her feet. “Have the twins had breakfast?”
“Just yogurt so far.”
“At school,” Isabel said, “Libby Guthrie’s little sister, who’s only five, said to me, ‘Is your daddy dead yet?’ and I said yes. I said he’d been dead for ages and then Libby whispered to her sister why and Bella didn’t get it and said, ‘Did someone shoot him or blow him up?’”
Alexa came across the kitchen and put her hands on Isabel’s shoulders. Then she pushed her gently before her until they were standing in front of the fridge. “Now. Yogurt, banana, cereal. Or cereal and an apple. Dan is coming home today and he is all in one piece and there’s not a scratch on him. We are not going to talk about dying.”
Isabel said nothing. Alexa reached into the fridge and put a pot of strawberry-flavored yogurt in her hand. “Eat,” she said. “I’m going to get the twins.”
Dan had said, please don’t come to Brize Norton. Just wait at home. It’ll be heaving at Brize and I don’t want to see you all again for the first time in public.
Alexa had thought of saying, I think I’ve done enough waiting, and then she thought, if I’ve waited six months, why can’t I wait a few more hours, if he’s asked me to? And he was right, anyway; it was so much better to see him come home, privately, than to be part of the massed, emotional, tearful chaos of men and kit and babies and children and women and the wonderful, awful exhilaration of reunion. Wasn’t it? She had, of course, planned to go to the air base. She had washed the car, and hoovered crisp crumbs out of the child seats, and cleaned the dashboard with some patent spray cleaner that had left the interior smelling like a cheap beauty parlor. But two nights ago, ringing from Cyprus—safe in Cyprus! Safely out of Afghanistan!—Dan had said, please don’t come to Brize. Be there for me at home, where I can picture you. I’ll whistle for Beetle. Let Beetle out when you hear me whistle. Fourish, I should think. Maybe earlier.
She wasn’t sure how she would have got through the day, if it hadn’t been for Franny. Franny just appeared, after breakfast, and looked at the girls and said, “Round to mine, babies,” to the twins, and “I need you,” to Isabel, and then she said to Alexa, “I’ll bring them back about three thirty.”
“How do I ever repay you?”
“You have my horrible boys when Andy flies into a mountain.”
“He won’t—”
“He might. He’s another being in that chopper.”
Alexa looked at Isabel. She had put on small denim shorts over purple tights and the dumpy sheepskin boots that were an off-duty uniform for her school.
“OK, Iz?”
Isabel nodded. She bent her head so that her inappropriately shining eyes were not evident. Franny’s older boy, Rupert, gave Isabel the distinct feeling that he had somehow noticed her. And he was almost fifteen.
“She’ll be fine,” Franny said. “It’ll give me a day of girl power, having your three.” She looked down at the twins, who were whispering away together in their particular language. “These two fascinate my boys. Even if they’d rather die than say so.”
When they had gone, Alexa toured the house for the twentieth time, straightening and adjusting, wrenching the dripping showerhead to its farthest Off position, polishing the draining board with kitchen paper. In the hall, she paused, and took the homecoming leaflet from the Welfare office off the table, and opened it.
“Why learn about homecoming and reunion?” it began brightly. “Everyone is affected, that’s why—service members, spouses, and children all feel the stress, as well as friends and relatives. After all, everyone changes. It’s only natural that those who have been away, as well as the spouses and children, family and friends, will have changed with time. They won’t, any of them, be exactly as you remembered.”
She put the leaflet down, and looked at herself in the mirror Mo had glanced in the night before. Was she different? Did she look different? A bit thinner, maybe, but the same height, obviously, and hair more or less the same length, and even if her jeans were newish, they were a familiar kind of jeans, and her hoop earrings had been given to her by Dan, soon after they met—he’d said that he thought big earrings went with long hair. She moved her head slightly. Her clean hair swished across her shoulders. Still long, if not quite as long as it had been when she went—so reluctantly!—to a party given by a work colleague at the school where they both taught, and there was this tall young man gazing at her from the other side of the room until she’d had enough to drink to go up to him and say, in a slightly pantomime voice that she was ashamed, in retrospect, of using, “Can I help you in any way, sir?”
“Yes,” he’d said. “You can leave this party with me, right now, before anyone else nabs you.”
And she had. They’d gone to a pub, and then to a Chinese place to eat, and then for a walk in a park she didn’t know because it wasn’t in her part of London, and he’d kissed her, suddenly, in the middle of a public path, right under a streetlamp, and here she was, eight years and two babies and five house moves later, waiting for him to come back with all the sick excitement she had felt in that second, in the nighttime park, before he kissed her, and when she had known with complete avidity that he would.
Beetle shot suddenly past her out of the kitchen, and stood, quivering and taut, by the front door.
“Nonsense,” Alexa said. “Nonsense. He won’t be back for hours yet.”
Beetle took no notice. He focused on the door as if he could see through it, every particle of him poised and straining.
“I’ll show you,” Alexa said. “I’ll open the door and show you. And when it turns out to be someone else, you’ll feel pretty silly.”
She leaned across Beetle and unlatched the door. Beetle, unable to bear waiting for even another fraction of a second, shoved the door wider with his shoulder and bolted out towards the road. Alexa looked up, across her badly mown lawn, over the ragged hedge, towards the beech clump. Coming across the central grass of the Quadrant, in desert combats and burdened with his grip and his Bergen rucksack, was—Dan.
Reading Group Guide
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Introduction
Alexa Riley eagerly awaits the return of her husband Dan, a major in the British Army, after a six-month tour of duty in Afghanistan. But the long-awaited reunion isn’t as perfect as she imagined, as her husband struggles to put the horrors of war behind him and readjust to family life. But for Alexa—who has been putting her own career dreams on hold while raising their three girls—the distance between them, both while Dan is away and at home, is unbearable. This poignant look at the inner workings of a modern military family questions just how much one is willing to compromise for family and what happens when love and vocation collide.
Topics & Questions for Discussion
1. Although Dan has returned home to England, in what ways is he still in Afghanistan? What are some of the biggest adjustments he has to face at home?
2. How do Dan and Alexa both contribute to the breakdown of communication in their marriage? What is the most vital information each one withholds from the other? What motivates Dan? Alexa?
3. Many outside forces affect Dan and Alexa’s marriage. Discuss how the events involving Isabel, Gus and Kate, and the wounded soldiers impacted their reunion.
4. Discuss the support system of women who emerge in the novel. Consider Franny, Mo, and Mel’s character in your response. In what ways does Mel represent a different path for military wives? Do you have a group of friends you turn to for support?
5. Discuss the generational differences among the Riley military men: Eric, George, and Dan. What issues pose a challenge for Dan that his father and grandfather did not experience in their day? In what ways do the two elder Rileys have the benefit of hindsight?
6. Compare the descriptions of day-to-day life on the military base with life in London. In what ways is the city an escape for Alexa?
7. Dan and Alexa’s friends and family subtly involve themselves in the couple’s relationship. Do you think actions taken by well-meaning outsiders helped or hurt Dan and Alexa’s relationship?
8. What role does Jack Dearlove fill in Alexa’s life that Dan cannot? Does Jack overstep his bounds in any way? Does Dan have the right to feel jealous or threatened?
9. How does Isabel’s unhappiness at boarding school illustrate the turmoil within the Riley family? What message do you think is Isabel trying to send to her parents?
10. Discuss the roles of hierarchy, structure, and authority in The Soldier’s Wife. How does the leadership styles of Mrs. Cairns, Mack, and George differ? In your opinion, does a family need structure or an authority figure?
11. How did you react to Dan and Gus’s decisions about their military service? Do you think each man made the best decision for his family? For himself?
12. Do know anyone from your personal life who has served in the military? Did reading The Soldier’s Wife affect your perception of what it is like to serve—both for service members and their families? Do you think this depiction of a military family is accurate? Why or why not?
13. What do you think the future holds for Dan and Alexa, both in their relationship and in their careers? How do you imagine their story playing out?
Enhance Your Book Club
1. The characters in The Soldier’s Wife are all avid tea drinkers. Host a proper British tea to set the mood for your discussion. For tips on what to serve and how to brew a proper pot of tea, visit www.thedailymeal.com/how-host-tea-party.
2. Discuss a time in your life when there was a breakdown in communication in one of your own relationships—whether it was with a partner or spouse, family member, or friend. What happened? How did you address the situation? What was the final outcome? What did you learn from the experience?
3. Supporting military families is one of First Lady Michelle Obama’s main objectives. Visit www.whitehouse.gov/joiningforces to learn more about the effort, search for service opportunities by zip code, or simply send a message of thanks to a military family.
4. For more female perspectives of military life, consider reading Home Front by Kristen Hannah, Lipstick in Afghanistan by Roberta Gately, or Alice Bliss by Laura Harrington for your next book club pick. Discuss the differences and similarities between both novels.
A Conversation with Joanna Trollope
In the United States, we often only hear about our own country’s efforts in the war in Afghanistan. What do you think Americans would be surprised to learn about England’s involvement in the war in Afghanistan?
I suspect that the similarities would surprise them. We are neither of us in Afghanistan to defend our own territories or even honour – our presence there is discretionary, which causes huge controversy, and we are facing an enemy whose territory it is, and who aims to maim and kill. I think an American reader might also be surprised at the level of British commitment.
What inspired you to write about military families? Did your own experiences in the Foreign Office shape your approach to this subject in any way?
No – my time in the Foreign Office was so long ago, and concerned Chinese relations with the Third World, mainly Africa, so it wouldn’t have been at all relevant to this novel. But I wanted to re-visit an emotional area that I had tackled twenty years ago in The Rector’s Wife, namely the difficulty of being married to someone else’s committed calling. I didn’t want to go back to the Church, and the modern Army seemed to me to be the perfect example of a profession about which the public feel very strongly, protectively and sentimentally, without quite understanding how exceptionally difficult their chosen path is for their families to live with and try to accommodate to.
Before writing The Soldier’s Wife, you conducted extensive interviews with military families. How did you earn their trust and what was the most surprising thing you learned in the process?
I had to obtain official clearance to speak to soldiers, and presumably they had to do the same to talk to me. But as I am a novelist, and not a journalist, I wasn’t seen as too great a danger! And once that permission was given, I found everyone in the military that I talked to extremely warm and open and helpful – to a remarkable degree. In fact, the most surprising element was how eager the soldiers in particular were to demonstrate their skills and explain their commitment and motivation. They live and breathe what they do.
Alexa longs to return to her career, which she put on hold in order to support her family. After speaking with military wives, how did you learn about how they balance work, marriage, and motherhood?
With great difficulty. And the younger they are, the harder they find it, because the submissive attitude of my generation of Army wives, prepared to subsume their own ambition into that of their husbands is almost a thing of the past. Modern girls understandably want to exercise their own talents and capacities, and are not prepared to make the sacrifices and compromises that earlier generations were brought up to do .All the wives I spoke to fantasized about one day owning a home and not having to have their children in boarding school because their fathers were being constantly moved around.
You are quoted on your website, www.JoannaTrollope.com, as saying: “Being born somewhere with a strong local sense, like the Cotswolds, gave me not just a sense of rootedness, but a capacity to value landscape and weather and the rich life of smallish communities. It wouldn’t matter where I lived now, I’d always carry that centered feeling of having come from somewhere very well defined with me.” In contrast to your own background, how does the absence of “having roots” affect Alexa, Dan, and Isabel?
Hugely. I would say of myself now that my roots in people run much, much deeper than my roots in any place, and this is how Isabel, especially, feels. Dan and Alexa have both grown up with peripatetic childhoods, so even though they are used to moving physically, they need stability in their relationships almost more than they either know or are prepared to acknowledge.
You’ve previously said that you love to write about female strength and the female capacity for endless self-reinvention in your novels. How did you address these themes in The Solder’s Wife?
By showing how agonizing it is for someone like Alexa to be completely thwarted in her ambitions by Dan’s chosen way of life – the army simply cannot and does not admit of compromise.
The Soldier’s Wife focuses on the inner workings of a marriage. What do you think readers can learn from Dan and Alexa’s struggles?
I suppose that loving someone truly and deeply will mean, to some degree and at some stage, acknowledging that you can’t have it all personally, or your own way all the time. They decided that they wanted to stay together, but that meant facing a future with long separations and isolations, because there were some things neither could sacrifice.
Like Alexa, you’ve also worked as a teacher. Can you tell us more about this experience? What did you teach? Do you think this previous profession affected your writing in any way?
I imagine that every single thing that I have done and been through has affected my writing – I would hope so, anyway! And teaching – actual teaching –can be so rewarding and exciting since you are, quite literally, engaging with the future. I taught all kinds of things at various stages, from English literature to adults, English to foreigners, Literature and language to children between 10 and 14, and Advance Level English to those in the final years of high school. I loved the kids and the subject, but was never very good at the rest of institutional school life, I’m afraid…
A Washington Post review described your “depictions of family life reach, at their keenest, genuine universality.” What do you think are the universal themes in The Soldier’s Wife?
The age old dilemma of how much you owe yourself, and how much you owe those you love and/or are responsible for – the abiding female question! As well as a look at what it is that makes anyone in uniform so seductive, our attitude to the rights of our children, and the nature of friendships formed out of proximity and necessity.
What are you working on now?
I’m chairing the Orange prize for literature, and re-working Jane Austen’s Sense and Sensibility as a contemporary novel – a fascinating exercise as so much of it is so modern, with Marianne’s sense of emotional entitlement and Elinor’s perpetual concern for practicality and restraint.
Product Details
- Publisher: Simon & Schuster (June 5, 2012)
- Length: 320 pages
- ISBN13: 9781451672510
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Raves and Reviews
“A penetrating study of military families and the potential conflicts between duty and love, The Soldier's Wife bears all of Trollope's trademarks: an affecting, well-constructed story; elegantly restrained prose; explorations of the ramifications of change; and, above all, characters conceived and nurtured with care. Those characters are people we know, people who might be our neighbors, ordinary people rendered with extraordinary perception and grace by an author who never fails to impress and whose journeys into the human condition always satisfy.”—Richmond Times-Dispatch
“With her stories about the tensions of middle-class families, Trollope consistently picks women's-page issues. In The Soldier's Wife, she continues to explore the power balance in relationships and whether it's possible to be happy if we subjugate our desires to someone else. “—The Independent (UK)
”Written with all Trollope’s customary skill and panache, this is an absorbing look at the modern military wife who no longer automatically follows the drum.”—The Mail (UK)
“Trollope is on top form, hitting the zeitgeist with this perceptive and compassionate inside story of an army marriage.”—Women & Home (UK)
“Nobody understands the snags and frustrations of family life better than Joanna Trollope . . . exquisite . . . a serious story that is unraveled sensitively.”—Sunday Express (UK)
“A deservedly popular writer, but she isn’t a frivolous one . . . a cracking read . . . compassionate, humorous, and topical.”—The Spectator (UK)
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