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Between the Sheets of the Secretive, Sometimes Messy, but Always Adventurous Swinging Lifestyle

About The Book

The wryly amusing and revealing story of one man’s journey into the swinger lifestyle that “transcends most of the usual boundaries of sexuality…and leaves the vanilla world behind” (The New York Times Book Review).

An estimated fifteen million strong worldwide, swingers are everywhere—a huge community hiding in plain sight, whose erotic pastime remains a complete mystery to the rest of us. In Swingland, Daniel Stern outs himself and the secretive society he loves, recounting his ten-year transformation from a lonely guy who couldn’t get a date into a veteran sexual adventurer.

With wit and infectious enthusiasm, Stern shares all the hard-earned wisdom he’s acquired in America’s swinging underground. He encounters plenty of bumps and bruises along the way, including countless rejections, missed opportunities, and one particular AARP orgy. But slowly and surely, through an impressive series of threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes, this “Vanilla” newbie becomes a much sought-after partner for couples looking to spice up their relationships. Travel with Stern on his exploits, learn a whole new lexicon (there aren’t many single women swingers, or “Unicorns,” but plenty of MFMs, FMFs, MMFMs, and MMMFMs), and gain free, invaluable advice should you decide to take the plunge (be honest, sensitive, and hygienic!).

“Equal parts memoir and guide book” (New York Post), Swingland is much more than a “unique, voyeuristic exposé” (Kirkus Reviews). Lovingly written, with a keen sensibility regarding the sensitive and often misunderstood subject, Stern’s narrative is as improbably safe as it is fun—and impossible to put down.

About The Author

© Cheryl Christensen

Daniel Stern is director of operations at an entrepreneurial company, a screenwriter who placed in the top four in Project Greenlight, and was a Sundance Lab screenwriting finalist. He lives in Los Angeles.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Atria Books (October 1, 2013)
  • Length: 320 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781476732558

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Raves and Reviews

"Transcends most of the usual boundaries of sexuality. … Leaves the vanilla world behind."

– New York Times Book Review

"Stern hilariously recounts his life in the swingers community. …Equal parts memoir and guide book."

– New York Post

"Los Angeles screenwriter Stern penetrates the unconventional world of swinging… A unique, voyeuristic expose of a taboo bedroom counterculture."

– Kirkus Reviews

"Brave, funny, eye-opening, entertaining, and well-written . . . everything one could ask, really, of a book about sex. But for all its titillations, Swingland is also something more rare: it is humane, and vulnerable. The book is a genuine delight.”

– Matthew Specktor, author of American Dream Machine

If you want to know your MFM from your MMF, your NSA from your GB and so much more, here's a man who's been there and done everything! Swingland is the erotic equivalent of a travelogue. Stern is an excellent X-rated tour guide through the often misunderstood world of swinging.”

– Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor, The Big Book of Orgasms

"Swingland is everything you need to know about swinging, whether it's your thing or it isn't. Stern isn't trying to pull punches here. He's the real deal, and it shows. Especially in chapters like Synthesis, bedded down in a lovely little section called Intercourse. This book is a must-read. I also thought it was really funny that he says 'DON'T be creepy' in a guidebook to swingers. Brilliant."

– Oriana Small, a.k.a. Ashley Blue, author of Girlver: A Porno Memoir

"Delightfully self-deprecating, and unrelentingly honest. Swingland offers an insightful glimpse into a strange sexual world."

– Sam Benjamin, author of American Gangbang

"Daniel Stern navigates the naked frontier of consensual, casual group sex with a firm, polite grip. Never pedantic, Swingland shimmies like the mingling souls of James Brown (The Los Angeles Diaries) and Augusten Burroughs to the Boogie Nights soundtrack."

– Antonia Crane, author of Spent

"SWINGLAND is a seductive story about a mysterious subculture, but ultimately, it's about transformation and one man's search for his own naked truth."

– Associated Press

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