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About The Book

Women who loved Steve Harvey’s mega-bestseller Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, will want to read this wise, funny relationship advice book from no-nonsense actress and comedienne Loni Love, who says that putting yourself first is the path toward lasting love.

Loni Love quit her job as an electrical engineer fifteen years ago to pursue her lifelong dream of a career in comedy. Since then she has become one of the highest-paid female standup comics in the United States and her brand of relatable humor has led her down yet another path: relationship advice. Already a regular on Loveline with Dr. Drew, Telepictures is currently developing Loni’s own relationship-based TV show.

In this fresh and funny advice book, Love doles out an ample serving of her unique, down-to-earth take on love, sex, and dating. Love Him or Leave Him delivers answers to women’s most pressing relationship questions with the central message that treating yourself right is always the first line of attack. You may stick with him, you may bail out, but don’t ever be left “stuck with the tab” or getting taken advantage of.

With the assistance of Jeannine Amber, award-winning Senior Writer for Essence magazine, Love offers up juicy tidbits of romantic advice in an easy-to-read Q&A format bolstered by hilarious been-there-done-that-tales. The message of her laugh-out-loud humor is consistent throughout: Put yourself first and love will follow.

About The Author

Loni Love is a co-host of Fox and BET’s new daytime talk show The Real, a regular panelist on Chelsea Lately, Tru TV Presents World’s Dumbest, and co-host of the nationally syndicated radio show, Cafemocha. She is one of the few top nationally touring female standup comedians and has performed on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, Comedy Central, and other shows. She lives in Los Angeles and is happily single with no cats.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster (July 30, 2013)
  • Length: 256 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781451694789

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Raves and Reviews

“Loni Love gives wise funny advice straight from the heart. She's the best boo anyone could hope to have.”

– Dr. Drew

“If Loni Love is half as good at giving advice as she is at drinking Hennessy, the world is about to be a much better place.”

– Chelsea Handler

“The Real co-host’s collection of hilarious relationship advice blends laugh-out-loud punch lines with practical takeaway.”

– In Touch

"Hilarious and straight-to-the-point (although NSFW) romantic advice on everything from meeting up to breaking up, and even getting hitched."

– Tampa Bay Times

“Love’s advice is witty and wise, and there’s something for readers at every stage in their love lives.”

– Publishers Weekly

“There’s no wallowing in man-misery allowed when you’re reading this book . . . Loni Love speaks bluntly and truthfully while advocating that women stand up for themselves, take back their strength, and stop being wimpy – whether they’re in their first romance or their fiftieth. Along the way, we meet Love’s ex-loves, her wild and clueless friends, and her bawdy, wonderful sense of humor.”


“She's got sass, she's got class and she'll kick your... preconceived notions of dating and courtship to the curb. . . . Any woman who has been treated like a carpet in past relationships should strap this guide to her torso. . . . Through over-the-top humor and blunt truth, Loni Love's how-to book on romance seems to encourage women to love themselves first—and the men will follow.”


“Listen up: Loni Love is a force to be reckoned with. She will give you confidence, boost your game, and call you out on all your stupid decisions. She's like Simon Cowell with a weave.”

– Sherri Shepherd

“Very funny advice for women! In fact, I've never been in favor of banning books, but now I am.”

– D. L. Hughley

“The funny stuff comes from Loni, the advice comes from me. When do I get a book deal?”

– Momma Love

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