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A must-have step-by-step guide on what to do (and what NOT to do) while dating featuring clear instructions and helpful scripts so you can deal with any difficult circumstance in every aspect of your love life.

How do you deal with dating apps, that commitment question, or if you want kids but they don't? Do This, Not That: Dating is here to help with all your relationship situations.

Romantic relationships can be full of challenging situations and emotions, and no matter how passionate, frustrated, excited, or downright angry you feel, it’s important for you to communicate and find a solution that works for both you and your partner. Whether you’re struggling to find the right words or simply aren’t sure how to approach a topic, this book will give you the tools you need to move forward productively…or learn when to let go and move on.

In Do This, Not That: Dating, you’ll find eighty common relationship issues that cover everything from your first date to your first fight—and beyond. For each situation, you’ll discover exactly what to do and what to avoid, then learn exactly how to make it happen. Find tips to reframe your thinking, simple scripts to help you figure out what to say, and even advice on your next steps depending on your initial conversation. This book is your must-have guide to any unexpected situation relationships throw your way.

About The Author

Hayley Quinn is a London-based dating coach who empowers men and women to enjoy a more fulfilling dating life with live coaching, hands-on tutorials, and guidance for any age or sexual orientation. From her popular Ted X talk to TV and radio appearances on BBC News and Celebs Go Dating, her goal is to help people feel confident and meet the people they deserve. She is the spokesperson for Match UK, the biggest online dating site in the world, and her work has been featured on Elle, Match, Cosmopolitan, and more. Learn more at

Why We Love It

“Dating advice can be overwhelming. With Do This, Not That: Dating, everything is broken down into easy-to-follow steps, and even includes scripts for readers to follow.”

—Sarah D., Editor, on The Unofficial Sims Cookbook

Product Details

  • Publisher: Adams Media (January 10, 2023)
  • Length: 192 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781507219706

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