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You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me)

Mentoring Your Child During the College Years

Realistic and practical advice for parents of college-age kids.

Parents whose kids are away at college have a tough tightrope to walk: they naturally want to stay connected to their children, yet they also need to let go. What's more, kids often send mixed messages: they crave space, but they rely on their parents' advice and assistance. Not surprisingly, it's hard to know when it's appropriate to get involved in your child's life and when it's better to back off. You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me) helps parents identify the boundaries between necessary involvement and respect for their child's independence.

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Marjorie Savage is the Parent Program director at the University of Minnesota, serving as a liaison between the school and the parents of its 28,000 undergraduates. She lives in Inver Grove Heights, Minnesota.

"Urgently needed information and cogent advice from a wealth of research, experience, and observation." -- Marvalene Hughes, Ph.D., president, Dillard University, New Orleans

"For nervous parents, this should be a reassuring and helpful book." -- Publishers Weekly

"Marjorie has produced the quintessential resource for every prospective and current college parent. This is a must-have reference." -- Sarah Schupp, CEO,