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Three Dads and a Baby

Adventures in Modern Parenting

Published by Cleis Press
Distributed by Simon & Schuster

About The Book

Families come in all forms, but parental love is universal . . .

As a closeted teen, Ian wondered if he would ever be able to live openly with a male partner. Years later, he had not one but two partners in a polyamorous Throuple—what more could he ask for? But something was still missing . . .

Join Ian and his partners, Alan and Jeremy, as they embark on a sometimes hilarious, sometimes tearful quest to become parents. They run the gauntlet: IVF failures, the threat of Zika virus, the urgent hunt for a new doctor, pregnancy-threatening bleeds, costly legal battles and a reluctant superior court judge.

Ultimately the grace of women—embryo donors, their egg donor, their surrogate, even a surprise milk donor—allow them to complete their family with one perfect girl, and become the first polyamorous family ever named as the legal parents of a child.

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Product Details

  • Publisher: Cleis Press (March 9, 2021)
  • Length: 288 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781627783101

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Raves and Reviews

An amiably narrated LGBTQ+ odyssey through equitable polyamory and nontraditional child rearing.

– Kirkus Reviews

An inherently fascinating and thoroughly absorbing read from cover to cover, "Three Dads and a Baby: Adventures in Modern Parenting" is an extraordinary account and one that is unreservedly recommended for the personal reading lists of any member of the LBGTQ community contemplating or experiencing parenthood with the context of their lives and aspirations.

– Midwest Book Review

An eye-opening, wild ride of a journey of three men trying to create a baby. Harrowing, moving, humorous, and entertaining — and a very happy ending!

– Will Halm, Esq. Managing Partner, International Reproductive Law Group

Ian Jenkins, MD proves it takes a team to build a family in his entertaining new book Three Dads and a Baby.

– Jerry Nunn,

Three Dads and a Baby is a delightful read with vital insights on polyamorous families and navigating the world of surrogacy. I highly recommend it to anyone considering parenting in a "chosen family!

– Valerie White, Esq., executive director of the Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund, Inc. and part of a parenting triad.

Delightfully well written and witty, Three Dads and a Baby details the adventures of three dads and the two women who help them have children. Along the way Jenkins explores the legal and social tribulations, adventures, and triumphs of his unconventional family. This charming book is required reading for laypeople to legal scholars and anyone else who is interested in getting lots of information about expanded families in an entertainingly smart style.

– Elisabeth "Eli" Sheff, PhD, CSE, Expert witness, relationship coach, educator & consultant, CEO, Sheff Consulting

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