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The Queer Parent

Everything You Need to Know from Gay to Ze

Published by Cleis Press
Distributed by Simon & Schuster

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About The Book

The only guide you'll ever need when it comes to the ins and outs of queer parenting. . .

LGBTQ+ people have more options than ever before when it comes to starting a family, but a lack of both focused information and mainstream representation can leave parents, prospective parents, friends and relatives in the dark.

Authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley spoke to dozens of experts and queer families, and this hugely-needed book is the product of those conversations and their own experiences of becoming parents through IUI and adoption respectively.

Ninety percent of queer parenting is just . . . parenting, but being LGBTQ+ when you’re a parent does bring with it a host of conundrums that mainstream guides — which tend to assume heterosexuality — do not address.

From adoption, surrogacy, fertility treatment and other routes to parenthood, to donors, trans parenting, how to deal with family-focused homophobia, coming out at the school gates and much more, The Queer Parent is a groundbreaking toolkit for LGBTQ+ parents, parents-to-be, and anyone looking to support their journey. It is a book that redefines the family for the modern age.

About The Authors


Lotte Jeffs is an award-winning magazine writer, editor, author and podcaster. They are a contributing editor for Grazia and have hosted the award-winning podcast Some Families as well as Grazia Life Advice. Lotte writes for broadsheet newspapers and international magazines and was previously Deputy Editor of ELLE. Lotte’s first children’s book My Magic Family, is published by Puffin, and her debut novel will be published by Dialogue in 2024. Lotte lives in London with her wife, daughter and two kittens.


Stu Oakley is a film publicist and award-winning podcaster. Stu has written a number of opinion pieces for the Guardian, Grazia, ELLE and Attitude. In his day job as a film publicist, Stu has worked on some of the biggest film franchises of all time including Star Wars, Harry Potter, Frozen and Jurassic World. He thought he was well-versed in dealing with divas . . . until he had toddlers! Stu lives in Hertfordshire with his husband and their three children.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Cleis Press (June 4, 2024)
  • Length: 406 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781627783378

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