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About The Book

For fans of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and Tiny Beautiful Things, this behind-closed-doors exploration from an acclaimed psychotherapist of the twelve fundamental psychological needs we all share “provides a road map of how one might approach their own transformation by becoming willing to admit their deepest desires” (Christie Tate, New York Times bestselling author).

What do we want? And how do we get it?

Chloe is beautiful and fiercely bright, but she feels desperately deprived. Elliot, lost and adrift, is secretly grieving the loss of his famous lover. Rosie has always tried to follow the rules of cultural expectations, but a year into her marriage, she still hasn’t had sex with her husband. Dwight is determined to be upbeat, even in the face of his wife’s betrayal.

Each of us, at certain moments in our lives, can feel lost or confused. We often don’t know how to get what we want, but we share some universal desires: to love and be loved; understanding, power, attention, freedom; to create, to belong, to win, to connect, to control; and we want what we shouldn’t. In each of these twelve chapters, focused on one of these desires, psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber takes you behind closed doors of her therapy sessions as she guides clients towards startling insights and profound change.

With a warm and compassionate voice, Weber blends dramatic and moving personal stories with careful research in this “brilliant and wise” (The Times, London) guide to living well that will stay with you long after you turn the final page.

About The Author

Iyanka Cooray

Charlotte Fox Weber is a psychotherapist and writer. She cofounded Examined Life and was the founding head of The School of Life Psychotherapy. She grew up in Connecticut and Paris and now lives in London with her husband and two young children. Tell Me What You Want is her first book. Find out more at

Product Details

  • Publisher: Atria Books (April 11, 2023)
  • Length: 320 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781982170691

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Raves and Reviews

"Brilliant and wise advice." --The Saturday London Times

"The case studies are testament to the power of therapy … [the writing is] thoughtful, lucid and blessedly free of therapese … Weber’s book is a powerful snapshot into the little bombs going off in the lives and homes of those around us." --The Sunday Times

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