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LATitude

How You Can Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work

Published by Cleis Press
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About The Book

A little distance goes a long way in this ultimate guide to living apart together relationships. . .

Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker, who married in 2022, live a block away from each other. David and Victoria Beckham’s house has been designed with “his and hers” wings. Emma Watson strongly believes that nontraditional couples that don’t fit the cookie cutter mold communicate better. Is the secret to stronger long-term relationships spending a healthy amount of time together and apart? Live apart together relationships have increasingly been making headlines in recent years, not only in the United States, but internationally. While it’s hard to get a handle on just how many couples live apart from their romantic partners, it’s estimated that 10 percent of adults around the globe are in LATs. And each time the lifestyle appears in the media, more people are interested in knowing not just why, but how?

Fret not! After years of conducting extensive research and interviews, longtime award-winning journalist and author Vicki Larson has some answers. LATitude: How You Can Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work is the definitive guide to creating a successful live apart together relationship. From the day-to-day practicalities as well as dealing with stigma and judgment, to sex and legal concerns, Larson tackles various topics, while simultaneously busting the many myths about it. Taking into account different goals and values, she also introduces ideas of new family form into the collective societal consciousness, not as a threat to traditional partnering, but as a valuable addition.

Whether you and your partner(s) are open to the idea of a LAT but don’t know where to start, or are part of a seasoned LAT relationship wondering how to manage unexpected lifestyle changes or that “next phase,” as empty-nesters or caretakers, LATitude has something for everyone. Consider this book your go-to guide to living happily ever after, apart.

About The Author

Vicki Larson is a longtime award-winning journalist, author of Not Too Old For That: How Women Are Changing the Story of Aging (2022), and co-author of The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (2014), named a Best Book of 2014 by PopSugar. The lifestyles editor, columnist and writer at a San Francisco Bay Area newspaper, Larson’s writing can also be found in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, Aeon, AARP’s The Ethel and Medium among other places. She has also been a guest on numerous radio and television shows as well as podcasts and is considered an expert on live apart together relationships.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Cleis Press (July 9, 2024)
  • Length: 210 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781627783323

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Raves and Reviews

I have long trusted Vicki Larson's unique ability to highlight and challenge cultural norms in the world of intimate relationships. And, in her new book, LATitude, she has done it again! Yes, Vicki engages our brains by diligently turning to the worlds of sociology, psychology, and economics to build the case that there are benefits to living apart together. But her superpower is engaging our hearts by affirming that every couple needs and deserves to co-create a relationship vision that works for them. I will recommend this book to my students and couples for many years to come.

Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty at Northwestern University, award-winning author of Love Every Day, and host of the podcast, Reimagining Love

Once again Vicki Larson challenges the social constructs of what a ‘successful’ relationship looks like. The answer. . . t’s what works best for you. More and more, couples want to define what works best for them, not just follow a well-worn or traditional path. In this book, Larson delves into how couples cohabitate and shows us how ‘separate is the new sexy’.

Jennifer Adams, author of A Sleep Divorce: How to Sleep Apart, Not Fall Apart

If the end goal of partnership is to create an environment that fosters a healthy, vibrant relationship, then certainly we need to consider all possibilities available. LATitude is the perfect guide for those who seek to discover, explore, and expand with their mate within a context of commitment and trust.

Susan Winter, bestselling author and relationship expert

A comprehensive and well-researched book about the joys and benefits of being what I call apartners—committed partners that live apart. Not every couple is meant to live together, or apart for that matter. It’s all about options. There is simply no cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all way to love, and this book will hopefully help readers, and society at large, to think outside the box. Or house!

Sharon Hyman, director of Apartners: Living Happily Ever Apart

A comprehensive guide on how to live apart—together, delivered through a non-judgemental, historical, practical and exploratory lens. I loved it.

Dr. Julie Hannan chartered psychologist and psychotherapist, and author of The Midlife Crisis Handbook

Through extensive research as well as candid conversations with couples of all ages and sexual orientations, journalist Vicki Larson explores a seemingly forbidden societal topic: committed romantic couples who choose to live apart from each other. Larson’s LATitude is a must-read, especially for any hesitant men who love the older women leading the way in this growing trend.

Laura Stassi, Dating While Gray podcast host and author of Romance Redux: Finding Love In Your Later Years

. . . Written in a breezy, non-judgmental style, the book is meticulously researched, ranging smoothly, logically, and with great clarity through experts and anecdotes from real, everyday participants. . . . Larson cuts through the data and finds the humanity and love that can dwell here, there, or anywhere.

Neal Allen, author of Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic

If you're seeking practical, realistic ways to live "together apart" with another human being, this book is for you. More to the point, Vicki Larson is the author for you. As with her previous books, in LATitude: How You Can Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work Larson tackles taboos, busts myths, and challenges the status quo through a fascinating blend of research, interviews, and anecdotes. Regardless of whether or not you ultimately embrace "LAT" living, you're guaranteed to enjoy every page of this new book, written with Larson's characteristic thoroughness, honesty, and humor.

Willow Older, co-author, Today I Noticed: A Little Book of Mindfulness that Will Change the Way You See the World

Larson has her finger on the pulse of an ahead-of-the-curve lifestyle option for couples who want loving committed relationships without sacrificing their own space—and sense of independence. Her deeply-researched book is a must-read for existing "LATs" and a practical how-to guide anyone exploring the potential benefits of a Living Apart Together relationship. Don't miss it.

Nicole Rodgers, founder and executive director of Family Story

This is a superb book, which reveals the nature of Living Apart Together in a profound, yet humoristic way. It shows how lovers who choose to live apart from their romantic partner have the best of both worlds: companionship as well as independence. I immensely enjoyed reading this informative and thought-provoking book. I highly recommended it to everyone who wants to know what love really is.

Aaron Ben-Ze’ev, Author of The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change over Time

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