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About the Book
With autism diagnoses now affecting 1 in every 31 children, families and educators are desperate not just for information, but also for understanding and usable guidance. In Finding the Gray, clinical and school psychologist Timothy J. Wahlberg, PhD, draws on more than 25 years of clinical experience and thousands of patients to offer a breakthrough way of seeing autism from the inside out.
Unlike books that focus on symptoms or surface-level strategies, Finding the Gray explains autism at a neurological and developmental level, showing how sensory overload, rigid thinking, and black-and-white processing emerge—and how those traits can be worked with rather than fought. Dr. Wahlberg’s widely cited Control Theory of Autism gives readers a practical framework for decoding behavior, improving communication, and building functional life skills across home, school, and therapy settings.
Through accessible language, real-world case studies, and concrete strategies, the book helps caregivers shift from frustration to clarity—and from fear to hope. It emphasizes that personality comes first, diagnosis second, and that individuals on the spectrum can thrive when their strengths are leveraged and flexibility is taught intentionally.
Product Details
- Publisher: Diversion Books (March 16, 2027)
- Length: 304 pages
- ISBN13: 9798895151891
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Raves and Reviews
"The behavior strategies outlined in this book have opened up a whole new world for our family. Daily meltdowns have been replaced with self-control and serenity. He has changed our lives!”
– Carla Kemp, parent of a child on the spectrum
“Finding the Gray challenges the reader to make as much of an effort to understand how autism feels for those who have it as we ask those with autism to try to understand us. This is an important and very hopeful book.”
– Jennifer L. Bollero, Esq., attorney and parent of a child on the spectrum
“Rarely does a book accomplish as much as Finding the Gray. In a down-to-earth style, with many examples drawn from his years of experience with this disorder, Dr. Wahlberg offers both therapists and family members what they need to understand and respond to a person with ASD with less frustration and greater effectiveness. It is a must-read for anyone who works or lives with a person on the spectrum.”
– Dr. Margaret Wehrenberg, author of the The Anxious Brain, The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques, and The 10 Best-Ever Depression Management Techniques
“Dr. Wahlberg has the unique ability to not only understand how the brain of an Asperger's child works, but he can explain it in clear, non-scientific terms that everyone can understand. Dr. Wahlberg relates to children who have Asperger's better than any professional we've ever worked with.”
– Michael Simon, parent of a child on the spectrum
“As a parent of a child with Asperger’s, I found Dr. Wahlberg’s book to be a useful tool in figuring out how to better understand and guide my child. A very practical approach to living with a child with Asperger’s, the book has helped me understand Asperger’s better and therefore be a better parent to my son.”
– Garey Schmidt, parent of a child on the spectrum
“Dr. Wahlberg’s approach and techniques have dramatically improved our son’s ability, desire, and self-confidence to interact with others and, in so many additional ways, to succeed as he is now doing in life.”
– Nancy Sohn, parent of a child on the spectrum
“Dr. Wahlberg has been invaluable in the success of my son’s treatment for Asperger’s (autism). We began to see Dr. Wahlberg and he put together a plan that allowed my son to learn how to manage his anxiety and be a part of the school community. Without Dr. Wahlberg’s vast knowledge of autism-related disorders, my son would not have achieved the success that he has. Thank you, Dr. Wahlberg!”
– Mary Kay Betz, Marketing & Research Director, Unlocking Autism / Midwest Regional Representative / www.unlockingautism.org
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