The loss of a child is the most devastating event a parent can face. In this moving memoir Liza Jankowski, the mother of four children, two boys and two still born girls, shares her experience with stillbirth and the effects that go far beyond what people could ever imagine. Dreams are destroyed. Lives are changed forever. The loss can seem too hard to bear. After a trouble-free pregnancy, Liza’s first daughter Olivia was declared dead at 41 weeks. Devastated and racked by guilt after deciding not to have the baby induced earlier, Liza was desperate for comfort and answers. If only? Why? What if? Her mind exploded with questions and she felt isolated and alone in her grief. In this emotive personal account, Liza shares her inner-most thoughts and feelings about the loss of a desperately loved daughter and how that loss changed her whole being. She discusses the impact on her relationships, her subsequent pregnancy and what she ultimately learned: devastating as it is, life does get better and the pain will ease. Changed is a powerful combination of a mother’s personal journey and helpful information that will offer comfort, hope and understanding. It is also the story of a mother’s love for a child that remains long after separation and death.
Liza Jankowski lives in Adelaide with her husband and two boys. She works as a part-time pharmacist and has volunteered as a parent support worker with SIDS and Kids in Adelaide since 2010. Liza is hopeful her book will provide comfort and hope to bereaved parents and also help health professionals looking to gain a better understanding of the feelings and emotions that arise after stillbirth so they may be better equipped to support bereaved parents in their care.