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How to Connect with Anyone, Anywhere (Even If It Scares You)



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About The Book

From media personality and communication expert Rachel DeAlto, learn how to connect with anyone, anywhere with this helpful guide for improving your social skills in every setting, including networking events, interviews, dates, and more.

We all have the desire to belong, to connect. And in the age of social media, making personal connections has been more challenging than ever.

Millennials and Zoomers tend to have high anxiety at the thought of meeting new people and often fumble during in-person relationships. They struggle to connect, don’t know how to make friends, and subsequently flounder in workplace relationships. Sound familiar? But relationship expert and media personality Rachel DeAlto knows that it doesn’t have to be that way. Everyone can be likable. Everyone can be confident. And anyone can achieve this authentically.

With a fresh, fun, and humorous tone, relatable provides a step-by-step guide that will take you from socially awkward to awesome. You will finally feel more comfortable in social and professional settings so you can let your true character shine as you form lasting, authentic, and meaningful connections with everyone in the room.


Chapter One: Far from Alone



Do you feel anxious in social settings? If so, why do you believe you feel that way?

Describe your ideal self in a social environment. How do you feel, what are you doing, who are you talking to? Write it as if you are there in the moment.

What steps can you take (even before getting to Chapter Two!) to improve your relationships?

MINDSET: I am open to new connections.

About The Author

Photograph by Oksana Pali

Rachel DeAlto is a relationship expert, media personality, and keynote speaker. Rachel has appeared as an expert on Lifetime’s Married at First Sight and TLC’s Kate+Date, and is presently engaged as Match’s Chief Dating Expert. Rachel DeAlto maintains a law degree from Seton Hall University, a master’s in psychology from Arizona State University, and an undergraduate degree in communications from Syracuse University. Rachel is a regular contributor on TV news programs and talk shows, including Good Morning AmericaTamron HallAccess Hollywood, CNN, and Today. She has also given three TEDx talks including “Being Authentic in a Filtered World” which is featured on Rachel lives in New Jersey with her family, where she enjoys laughing at her own jokes and playing with her dog, Mac.

Product Details

  • Publisher: S&S/Simon Element (September 7, 2021)
  • Length: 176 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781982171087

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Raves and Reviews

"Rachel is so…relatable! This book feels like sitting down with your best friend or sister. She tells you like it is, but with love and compassion, and creates a blueprint for making connections and building relationships in a way that leaves you inspired and ready to take action.” Andrea Owen, author of Make Some Noise and How to Stop Feeling Like Shit

"Whether she's talking on stage, TV, or TikTok, everything Rachel says is relatable. This book is packed with practical advice to help readers build better relationships with other people and with themselves. I highly recommend it!"
Jessica Abo, author, Unfiltered: How To Be As Happy As You Look On Social Media

"In a world where we are always connected to devices it’s easy to lose what it truly means to connect to others. Rachel will help you release fears and any social anxiety so you can be your authentic self and create relationships that uplift every aspect of your life.” Jessica Ornter, New York Times Best Selling author and creator of The Tapping Solution App

"Rachel is part coach, part best friend and the only plus one you’ll need to walk you through your newmore successful and more social life. Ultra-readable and full of hilarious stories and practical advice, relatable is the perfect book to guide you through your post-pandemic life" Samantha Ettus, bestselling author, iHeart podcast co-host, and entrepreneur

"The ultimate guide everyone needs to build relationships. Not only fun and funny, but so informative and practical. A must read.” Jess Ekstrom, author of Chasing the Bright Side and founder of Headbands of Hope

"This book is simultaneously hilarious, relatable and practical. To call it a must read is an understatement. Whether you're looking to grow professionally or personally, Rachel created the blueprint everyone needs to build successful and lasting relationships." Antonio Neves, author of Stop Living on Autopilot

"I can’t think of a single person who wouldn’t benefit from this book! From the most introverted, to the socially anxious, to the power connector looking to further “up” their skills. Rachel is funny, informative, and is going to change lives with this one.” —Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, bestselling author of Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love

"The blueprint everyone needs to build relationships. Not only fun and funny, but so informative and practical. A must read."
—Mike Alden, Wall Street Journal and USA Today bestselling author

"Since the first time we met, her authenticity drew me in—so it’s no surprise that her book, relatable, blew me away. Rachel is the REAL deal. This book is a must read for anyone who has struggled to connect—in real life—which these days is most of us. Not only is she hilarious, Rachel’s advice is genuine, compassionate and practical. This book is sure to be THE roadmap for those looking to find, build, and strengthen all types of relationships." —Jessica L. Griffin, Psy.D., relationship expert and TV personality

"If you’re ready to break out of your shell and find your tribe, read this book! With her trademark humor and vulnerability, Rachel breaks down the skills you need to build strong social bonds that last." Parvati Shallow, Survivor winner and life coach

"relatable is the perfect title for this literary gem. Rachel clearly outlines the steps to getting out of your own way and digging to the root of why some are short circuiting their own relationship success. This is a manual for anyone who is serious about connecting with others in a productive way." —Calvin Roberson, author and relationship expert for Married at First Sight

"Must read on relationship building. Real examples. Real stories. And really useful advice, tips and action steps to build the people skills necessary for success in your career and in your life. Two huge likeable thumbs up for relatable!" —Dave Kerpen, bestselling author of The Art of People

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