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Tantric Secrets for Men

What Every Woman Will Want Her Man to Know about Enhancing Sexual Ecstasy

Published by Destiny Books
Distributed by Simon & Schuster



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About The Book

Contains everything a man needs to know in order to be a good lover, based on esoteric traditions of sexual ecstasy.

• Includes practical and easy-to-follow Tantric rituals and sacred sexuality exercises for a modern lifestyle.

• Uses real-life stories of couples to show the benefits achieved with the practices.

• Offers an approach to lovemaking that encompasses all dimensions--physical, emotional, and spiritual.

• Written by the co-creators of The Secrets of Sacred Sex video

Being a good lover isn't easy. With more freedom, knowledge, and body awareness, today's woman knows better than to settle for predictable, performance-based sex. Tantric Secrets for Men offers everything a man needs to know in order to satisfy a woman's physical, emotional, and spiritual yearnings. Employing the ancient secrets of physical ecstasy, men learn to transform rote sex into passionate lovemaking, pleasure into ecstasy, and partnership into union.

From the expert teachings of a committed couple practicing and teaching ecstatic sexuality in a modern-day context, men will learn how to satisfy a woman on the levels of body, heart, and soul--and how to bring themselves to new heights of ecstasy in the process. The authors draw upon time-honored tantric and Taoist practices and modern sexology that will enable couples to make love more frequently, achieve higher and prolonged states of orgasmic intensity, experience lovemaking as a sacred endeavor, and deepen loving relationships.



Imagine having a partner who says that she couldn't possibly have a better lover than you, that she can't wait for you to come home each day.

Imagine being in a relationship that is exciting, sexy and emotionally nurturing; being able to make love as long as you want, as many times as you like, at any age, and knowing absolutely that you can satisfy your partner - not just physically, but on every level of being - body, heart and soul.

Imagine continuing to explore and create together fulfilling and profound lovemaking experiences; continuing to grow and bond with more intimacy, loving feelings and communication. Imagine feeling more pleasure, with deeper, stronger orgasms for you and your partner.

Lovemaking that will bring more love, joy and pleasure into your life is possible.

Held within these pages are secrets and practices that will turn this dream into reality, secrets you will treasure for a lifetime. I have no doubt about it because the secrets I share in this book are not theoretical, they are practices that my wife Diane and I have developed through actual experience of working successfully with thousands of people over many years. I am not suggesting or wanting to suggest that by reading this book everything will be rosy and that you'll have no problems with your partner any more. I've been married for over twenty years and we have three children, I know what difficulties arise! However, I've also invested many years of my life on a full time basis finding out what practices work in different situations and what it takes to sustain love and sexual passion with the same woman over and over again. There is an old proverb, 'Blessed is the man who has found his work and one woman to love'.

This book is for any man of any age who wants to be an extraordinary lover. A man feels ten feet tall when he knows he can satisfy a woman and the skills you learn from this book will give you the expertise to do exactly that!
Much of a man's self-image is tied up with how good he is in bed. Every man wants to be good in bed. For my father's generation that was relatively easy. It was easy to screw; anybody could do it. You just moved in and out until you felt an explosion of energy. That's all there was to it. The only challenge was to find a willing partner.
In the 1960s, during my elder brother's era, everything changed. Men began to realise that their pleasure in sex was magnified when their partners were also experiencing a great amount of pleasure. They realised that in order to be good lovers they needed to warm up their partner with lots of foreplay. Men were challenged to get women to orgasm. However, there wasn't a lot of pressure on them to succeed because throughout the previous two thousand years, women's sexuality had been suppressed. It was common for women to be uncomfortable with their sexuality and to have difficulty reaching orgasm. If it happened, that was great, but if it didn't, it wasn't such a big deal because it was accepted that 'good girls don't do it anyway'. So lovemaking was still mostly about his pleasure.

Today, however, being a good lover is more challenging than it has ever been. Women have moved through a transformation. A woman today doesn't want just sex, she wants great sex, which includes physical and emotional nourishment.

Many men go into lovemaking concerned that they won't be able to meet their partner's needs. I would suggest that what we must do as self-aware men is work with our partners as team-mates in continuing to support and nourish this opening of their sexuality. One of the best ways we can do this is by becoming extraordinary lovers.

I believe that there is a 'new man' in the world today, one who wants to experience sex at its full potential, who desires to make love in such a way that it opens the door to the greatest joy for his loved one and himself, and fulfils his deepest yearnings. This new, aware man realises the importance of learning about love, sex and relationship. He is strongly conscious of the centrality of these matters in his life, and he wants to learn all there is about lovemaking. Yet there is very little good education available on how to become a good lover. And contrary to what the ego would have us men believe, we are not born naturally good at lovemaking. I am not talking about intercourse. Anyone can do that. I'm talking about learning how to make love so that you can nourish a woman on every level of her being - body, heart and soul; so that she not only experiences levels of physical pleasure beyond anything she has ever experienced before, but also has a deep feeling of love in her heart and experiences an ecstasy that transcends her sense of time, space and thought.

The secrets in this book will give you the knowledge, skills and practices to be able to achieve that with your partner - to be an extraordinary lover. Every woman wants her man to know these secrets. Once you nourish a woman on this level, your relationship will reach new depths of love and new heights of ecstasy. The benefits of knowing these secrets are not only that you nourish your partner's sexuality better than any other man can, but that you learn how to access higher states of pleasure yourself.

About The Author

Kerry and Diane Riley teach courses on personal empowerment, sex, love, and relationships. Their work combines contemporary sex therapy with the great traditions of ecstatic sexuality, and they are now teaching Tantra Teacher and practitioner programs. They have contributed to many DVD programs, including Tantric Lovemaking Secrets and Practices, and are co-creators of the DVD The Secrets of Sacred Sex (over 200,000 copies sold). They live in Byron Bay, Australia.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Destiny Books (October 1, 2002)
  • Length: 272 pages
  • ISBN13: 9780892819690

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"Calling on personal experience and the experiences of their students, Kerry and Diane Riley bring a refreshing, down-to-earth approach and a wealth of practical wisdom to contemporary tantra, based on a lifetime of love. Tantric Secrets for Men deserves to be read by men everywhere and by the women who love them, and will love them even more after they read this book!"

– David Ramsdale, author of Sexual Energy Ecstasy

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