The authors of the #1 New York Times bestseller The Nanny Diaries take “an unflinching look at the price of fame” (Booklist) in this story of a young woman trying to escape her ambitious family.
Growing up in small-town Oklahoma, cousins Logan and Kelsey Wade were raised like sisters. Rarely separated, they became each other’s lifelines, escaping into the small joys of childhood to survive the increasing chaos in their family. Then one day Logan woke up and Kelsey and her parents were gone.
Years later, Kelsey has been propelled by her relentless parents to mega-stardom, her voice a radio fixture and her face on billboards worldwide. Meanwhile, Logan is trying to carve out her own life in New York City despite the constant reminders of her cousin’s absence. Though she has long since stopped trying to solve the mystery of their last hours together, the inexplicably fractured memories haunt her.
Then on Logan’s twenty-seventh birthday, she gets the call that she’s been longing for—and dreading. Before she can second-guess herself, she’s on a plane to L.A. to reunite with Kelsey and the parents who ripped them apart, but Logan will soon learn that some family secrets are kept hidden for a reason.
This reading group guide forBetween You and Meincludes discussion questions and ideas for enhancing your book club. The suggested questions are intended to help your reading group find new and interesting angles and topics for your discussion. We hope that these ideas will enrich your conversation and increase your enjoyment of the book.
Topics & Questions for Discussion
1.Why do you think Logan agrees to become Kelsey’s assistant? When things begin to fall apart, why does she stay?
2. Reflecting on her childhood with Kelsey, Logan remembers, “We used to imagine we were secretly really not just cousins but sisters, never actually saying which parents we’d erase from the equation if we could.” (p. 66) As children, which parents do you think the two girls would have chosen to keep? Would their choice be different in the present-day?
3. Early on in the tour, Logan says to Kelsey, “You really don’t have to…endear me, entertain me, engage me. If it starts with an ‘e,’ you don’t have to do it. I’m here. I’m in. It’s not your responsibility to make this a good time for me. Consider my presence an off switch.” (p. 80) Is Logan true to her word? To what extent does Kelsey take her up on this? You might refer to their conversation on page 155 as a point of comparison.
4. Michelle is an especially complex character—though less outwardly volatile than her husband, Andy, she is far from straightforward and rarely says what she truly thinks. How does she express her emotions, both positive and negative? How does she get her way, and what happens when she doesn’t?
5. Consider Kelsey’s love for the classic children’s story, The Velveteen Rabbit, which is a recurring motif in the novel. Why do you think it is so important to her? Knowing what you know about the story, why do you think McLaughlin and Kraus chose it to be Kelsey’s favorite?
6. What do you think goes wrong in Kelsey and Aaron’s relationship? Was it doomed to fail, or was there ever hope for them?
7. Consider Logan and Finn’s conversation on page 137 about their respective employers. What is this novel saying about the relationship between fantasy and reality? How does that relationship change when you are a celebrity?
8. In Rolling Stone’s February 2008 issue, Vanessa Gregoriadis wrote, “More than any other star today, Britney [Spears] epitomizes the crucible of fame for the famous: loving it, hating it and never quite being able to stop it from destroying you.”Do you agree with this assessment? To what extent is this true of other young stars in Hollywood? How does this apply to Kelsey in Between You and Me?
9. Could you empathize with Michelle and Andy’s involvement in Aaron’s life, after he and Kelsey filed for divorce? Or did your sympathies lie with Kelsey, who clearly felt betrayed?
10. After years of suppressing the memory, Logan suddenly flashes back to the last night that she and Kelsey were together as children, the night that her parents had always said she was in a car accident. Did this scene surprise you? How did it affect your view of Andy?
11. Logan tells Finn, “We’re both making our living as crutches to the weird and wounded,” to which he replies, “You’ll give that twisted family enough rope to hang you. But you don’t give me even an inch to figure this out with you.” How are Logan and Finn’s respective approaches to their jobs similar—and how do they differ? 12. Of pressing for conservatorship status, Andy says, “I am making things right.” Logan retorts, “This is the single most selfish thing you could have done to her.” Can you see both points of view, or do you take sides with either Andy or Logan here?
13. Michelle claims that Kelsey began performing as a child because she loved it—while Kelsey claims she did so because it got them both away from Andy. What do you think? At the end of the novel, Kelsey seems to be gearing up to return to performing after her very public breakdown. Again, do you think this is because she can’t bear to live without music—or because of the influence of her parents?
Enhance Your Book Club
1. Pretend that you are casting the film version of Between You and Me. Who would play Kelsey and Logan? What about Michelle and Andy?
2. Gather some weekly celebrity magazines, and select a few articles that discuss a celebrity’s bad behavior. As a group, talk through what you think is actual truth in the stories.
3. Discuss the ways that male and female stars are portrayed in the media. Are they held to different standards? If they begin to spiral out of control, like Kelsey does in Between You and Me, does their gender play a role, either in the circumstances surrounding their meltdown or in the popular press’s coverage of it? A few celebrities you might consider in your book club discussion: Lindsay Lohan, Charlie Sheen, Owen Wilson, Amy Winehouse, Britney Spears, and Chris Brown.
Emma McLaughlin and Nicola Kraus are the New York Times bestselling authors of The Nanny Diaries, Citizen Girl, Nanny Returns, and the young adult novels, The Real Real and Over You. They are the cofounders of TheFinishedThought.com, a book coaching firm, and work together in New York City. For more information visit EmmaAndNicola.com.