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We Had It So Good

A Novel

About The Book

Now in paperback from the acclaimed author of the Man Booker Prize-shortlisted novel The Clothes on Their Backs—a hugely satisfying, exuberant novel about the generation that came of age during the 1970s.

Stephen Newman’s children find it hard to believe that their father once dressed up in Marilyn Monroe’s furs, cooked acid at Oxford and lived with their mother, Andrea, in an anarchist collective. Quite often, Stephen finds it hard to believe himself. Born to immigrant parents in sunny Los Angeles, Stephen never imagined that he would spend his adult life under the gray skies of London, would marry and stay married and would watch his children grow into people he cannot fathom. Over forty years he and his friends have built lives of comfort and success, until the events of late middle age and the new century force them to realize that they have always existed in a fool’s paradise. Linda Grant’s utterly absorbing novel about the generation that came of age during the 1970s reveals the truth about growing up and growing older and once again displays her uncanny ability to illuminate our times.



Aged nine, Stephen standing outside the fur storage depot where his father works, his sturdy legs in shorts planted on Californian ground. Feet wide apart, shoulders up, arms behind his back, his neck sticking out from the collar of a checked shirt to which a narrow bow tie has been clipped, and his round, Charlie Brown head dusted with the dark shadow of a crew cut. All-American boy.

“That day,” he told his children, “was the most exciting day of my life. That’s when I put on Marilyn Monroe’s fur stole. And got thumped on the head by my old man when he saw what I was doing.”

The cold-storage warehouse took care of the fur coats of the movie stars. Stephen struggled to express memories he could find no words for, of walking along the lines of minks and sables, ocelots and ermines, allowed to carefully stroke their satin pelts, insert his own small arm into their dangling sleeves and feel the silken linings. His scrubbed hand was permitted briefly to enter the great surprise of a velvet pocket.

“This coat belongs to Miss Bacall,” his father told him, in his immigrant accent. “This one to Miss Hayworth. The animal was a living thing, a beautiful creature that once was. And only a beautiful woman deserves to wear a coat like this.”

If Marianne and her brother, Max, even as children cynically thought the world of their forefathers was unreal, made up by their father as a bedtime story, Stephen in his time had been far more credulous. For years he had believed that his father was on actual speaking terms with film stars, that he went to work every day with Deborah Kerr and Audrey Hepburn and Ava Gardner. Only after he made the momentous first visit to the cold-storage company, driving home with his father through Los Angeles suburbs, did he learn that the actresses never called to pick up or deposit their own furs; they had assistants to bring in the coats, the heat of the stars’ bodies still trapped in the linings, redolent of their sweat and perfume, the Joy, the Chanel No5, L’Heure Bleue.

The brutal heavyset warehousemen regarded the coats as skin, animal pelts, weighty objects to be moved about in freezing conditions. They were all short, tough types, with large forearms and thinning hair. It was a shock, after the feminine world of home, his mother, his two sisters—their hair spray hanging in the air long after they had stood up from the mirror and face powder leaving scented trails scattered through the house; motes of lily of the valley and lilac whitened the rugs.

Inside the warehouse, Stephen listened to his father’s explanations about why a fur needed to be kept under special conditions. The cool air and the darkness stopped the skins from drying out, the hairs from discoloring and held back the infestation of insects which could eat away at the garment. The duties of the employees included not just hanging the coats, but ensuring that they were not too close together, to prevent crushing. There was regular spraying of the unit with strong chemicals to control pests and rodents. Under no circumstances was a fur to be stored in a plastic bag, which could build up humidity and mold. The sight of a plastic bag in a cold-storage facility was the way, he said, you could detect an outfit run by a crook.

After the lecture, Stephen ran down the racks of furs, which hung like heavy headless bodies in the darkness. Doubling back, he came to a rail of stoles which had just arrived for treatment and storage. His father was on the other side of the room smoking the stump of a cigar, his knee raised, his foot resting on a wooden crate, a small skinny man with the endurance, his wife said, of an ox, who arrived in America all by himself aged twelve and who barely grew afterward, as if the soil of home in Europe had given him all the nutrients he needed. She was a head taller than him in her nylons and her hair rose even higher still, blue-black and held up with a butterfly comb.

The garment which lay draped around the hanger was slipping off and before it reached the floor Stephen raised his arms to catch it. The fur body fell—weirdly, he thought—both heavy and light with a fragrance of hot pearls. The hairs brushed his face and tickled him. “I had to try that thing on,” he told his children. “I don’t know what came over me, but you know all kids love fancy dress and maybe it was just Halloween come early.”

The weight of the pale mink bore down on his thin arms. He came walking out toward a mirror so he could see what kind of being he had been transformed into.

His father turned and saw his only son draped and twirling on his toes in Marilyn Monroe’s champagne mink stole. Stephen thought he was taking the opportunity to try out transformation. He was exercising his birthright, the American capacity to be reborn.

A hard whack came from behind and he heard his father utter imprecations in his native language, in which there were few vowels and many syllables, which seemed to get stuck in the speaker’s throat, choking him.

At home, he was a momma’s boy. He watched his mother take a series of unconnected items from various storage places in the kitchen, and by magic turn flour, sugar, water, butter into a cake, which contained elements of all of them but through an alchemical process now resembled something completely different. He would climb onto a high stool and explore inside the recesses of the cupboards, finding bitter black baking chocolate, boxes of dry graham crackers, tiny glass bottles of vanilla essence. Alone, all these things were disgusting; in his mother’s marvelous hands, bound together by strong voodoo they turned into delicious treats. His older sisters did not care for desserts. They wore too much makeup and were rumored to lead a wild life on the periphery of the neighborhood.

In the kitchen Stephen failed to develop an interest in baking, as his father had feared, now the butt of daily jokes about his sissy boy, the feygele. Instead, baking had ignited a curiosity about the inner mysteries of the ingredients themselves, their hidden lives. One night Stephen’s father brought home a child’s chemistry set for him. Working late in his bedroom (the only member of his family not to have to share a room, the little privileged prince), he completed every experiment by 2:00 a.m., and awoke the next morning parched for more knowledge. At school he learned about chemical compounds and molecules. The very air you breathed consisted of oxygen, and when you combined it with a couple of measures of hydrogen, it was water. Things changed their forms because of events invisible to the naked eye, as if God was in the kitchen, with his crazy wooden spoon. The universe was spinning and expanding, great gaseous clouds were worlds. Years later, he would be moved to sudden tears, sitting in the college library, by the beauty of physics, which was not even his major. He sensed the divine. God was in the subparticle.

Observing his son propel his way through high school like one of the rockets that the space program was shooting up in the direction of the moon, the best grades in chemistry, biology, physics and math, his father wondered from which side of the family the brains came. He had had a grandfather back home who was a learned man by all accounts, a bearded wonder, but he only remembered his herring breath. His wife was singular for her beauty, not her thoughts. Where did this amazing mind come from?

Yet he distrusted intellectuals. Si Newman still thought like a manual worker, moved by the herd mentality of the crowd. His son could not hammer a nail straight, or take apart and put back together a small appliance. He was skinny like his father, taller but weak, without the upper-body strength that the old man believed was crucial for personal survival. What maketh a man? Biceps, triceps and pectoral muscles. He didn’t know, or could never remember, these doctors’ terms, but he felt them, under his flaking skin. Strong quads were also helpful. Furs could weigh as much as lumber. Sealskin, that was a very heavy pelt, thankfully now out of fashion.

He badly wanted to have a son with a college education, the mark of tremendous respect, but he did not understand how a sissy could survive in America. You saw the film stars, the actors, in their beautiful suits and handmade shoes, but they were a class of little tin-pot gods. There was some element of masculinity that was missing in them (apart from John Wayne); women could not see it, they responded to their sex appeal, but sex appeal was not everything.

Stephen’s father believed that his son needed basic survival instincts. Some things operated as a dark shadow in the recesses of his mind, primeval hunches. The weak, he believed, were prey for the carrion eaters. His own parents, he said, had been turned back from Ellis Island, diseased with tuberculosis, the chalk cross on their backs crucifying them. Simon Newman had refused to get back on board the ship, he would make his own way in life and he had done so. He never saw his mother and father again, or spoke of them. Stephen grew up knowing all of this, he had not been protected from the terrible past, but the point, he learned, is that it was the past. He was in America now, and unlike either of his parents, American-born.

It was, his father told him, a different country in those days. Si had been found on the street and taken in by a childless couple and things generally went on from there. He perfected the orphan shtick, moving from comfortable home to comfortable home, taking what he wanted, traveling like a hobo across the country until he arrived in Los Angeles and there was nowhere farther to go. Stephen was in awe of his father.

They lived on the rim of the Pacific Ocean, which curled around half the globe, an unending potential for self-sufficiency in the face of hostile nature, and the more Si considered its vast wetness, the more he saw it was the solution, the way to make a man of his son—the sea!

“You want me to go to sea?” said Stephen, stunned.

The ocean was a familiar quantity. You drove to the beach with your mother and father on holiday weekends and there it was, cold, wet, semidangerous. You unwrapped beach food and ate, and after a couple of hours of mandatory rest, during which your mother and sisters read a movie magazine and your father brooded silently on the horizon, his white legs sticking out of polka-dot navy blue shorts, you were permitted to splash around in the waves.

But his mother had a cousin in the maritime union, down in San Diego. This side of the family was the Cubans. The men wore gold signet rings and combed their hair back in oiled quiffs like Elvis; the women all wore shoes with unfeasibly high heels and showed off a red-lacquered big toe.

“But I want to go to college and study chemistry,” said Stephen.

“So who says you can’t do both?”

With a maritime union ticket in his wallet, from the age of seventeen he shipped out every summer, starting on the West Coast, making cruise ship runs to Hawaii and up to Alaska. In 1965, he crossed America for the first time, saw New York for the first time, went down to the union hall, to the open outcry.

The hiring boss shouted, “SS United States, seven cabin-class bellboys!” and he ran and slammed down his union card on the table.

“Who’s your rabbi?” the man with the wedge-shaped teeth said, picking up the card.

“Enrique Salvídar.”

“How do you know him?”

“He’s my mother’s cousin.”

“College kid?”

“Yes, sir.”

This was the first of his four-day hops to Europe, on the fastest cruise ship in the world—to Southampton, then Bremerhaven in Germany, down to Le Havre in France, looping back to Southampton and returning home. One year on another ship he got all the way to Italy. You could do three or four of these a summer and not have to borrow a cent to pay for your education.

As for bringing him to manhood, on shore leave in Naples the purser offered to show him certain spots in the city. A month later he recollected a teenage prostitute lying in bed looking at the wondrous contents of an American pigskin wallet and he remembered where he had left his UCLA library card. When he had first enrolled in college, his father had held it reverently in his scarred hand. “With this card,” he had told Stephen, “a whole world of knowledge will open up to you.”

In 1968 he graduated and, with the thirst for travel awakened by too-brief shore leaves, decided to apply for a Rhodes Scholarship, which he patiently explained several times to his disbelieving parents was postgraduate studies at Oxford University and came with everything you needed to live outside America, including a prepaid ticket on the ship he already knew, the SS United States. Their son, a prince at Oxford.

But his father thought his boy was in one respect a dope. His was the ignorance of the people with letters after their name and pictures of themselves in black robes receiving scrolls (that very photograph, gold-framed, hung on the wall next to the cabinet containing china teacups with flowers painted on them, never used). On the sly he cashed in Stephen’s ticket and handed him the whole amount in dollar bills in an envelope. “Go over as a seaman earning a seaman’s pay,” he said, “and arrive at Oxford University like a lord.”

What could you do? His father was a man of the Old World, not the old world he was going to, but a place more primitive, atavistic in its inclinations, a peasant land. His father thought like a peasant. The furs he schlepped around all day were for him not so much the product of a master furrier’s expertise, but the excess from the meat the caveman bludgeoned with a bone. Stephen loved his father. He respected him for being a hard worker and a good provider. His parents seemed to have a good marriage, they enjoyed dancing and sometimes he had caught them in a kiss, sitting together in the car, parked outside their building. Years later, when he was married himself, he suspected that the marriage had always been glued together by sex. That his father saw a beautiful Latina woman with her black hair in a heavy roll above her forehead and powdered cheeks, while she saw in him a man confident, despite his scrawny size, in his masculinity, who had worked his way across America, alone.

Stephen kissed his parents good-bye, kissed his sisters, smelt the riotous cheap scent coming off their necks. He was twenty-two and certain that he was the next Einstein.

Off the ship sailed, backing out from Manhattan, the Statue of Liberty receding, Ellis Island receding behind him, and in that high-tide moment, it was all over, all was done with America.

© 2011 Linda Grant

Reading Group Guide

This reading group guide for We Had it So Good includes an introduction, discussion questions, and ideas for enhancing your book club. The suggested questions are intended to help your reading group find new and interesting angles and topics for your discussion. We hope that these ideas will enrich your conversation and increase your enjoyment of the book.


Set between the United States and the United Kingdom, Man Booker short-listed author Linda Grant’s We Had It So Good is a sweeping history of the evolution of the baby-boomer generation. In 1968 Stephen Newman, the son of an immigrant Californian, leaves America for Oxford University on a Rhodes scholarship. There his world evolves, as he, his future wife Andrea, and their friends come-of-age during the hazy 1970s. With humor and coruscating insight, We Had It So Good is an unfailingly tender portrait of a family and an era.


  1. There are a number of catastrophic events that hang over the social landscape throughout the narrative—including the remnants of WWII, Vietnam, the September 11 attacks, the terrorist bombing of the London tube, and the political strife witnessed by Marianne outside of Bosnia. How does disaster shape the characters in We Had it So Good?
  2. On page 17, Marianne tells her brother that “you cannot rely on them. Parents, by definition, are liars.” Do you agree? Does her statement make you rethink the validity of Stephen and Andrea’s perspectives?
  3. Should Si have told Stephen the truth of his emigration into the U.S.?  Once Andrea knew his secret, should she have been the one to divulge his story?  What did you make of Stephen’s “numb” reaction to reading his father’s therapy file and discovering the truth?
  4. On page 300, considering her analysis of Grace, Andrea thinks, “…of course, it’s in childhood that we are building our neuroses, and God forbid, if you are abused and neglected, something can go badly wrong so early that it can never be put right.”  How do formative childhood events affect the characters in the book?  Consider Stephen trying on the mink stole, Andrea’s froggy day, Grace’s strange upbringing, Max’s deafness, and Marianne being called fat. Do the characters ever break free of their childhood trauma? Were you reminded of any specific moments or experiences from your own childhood?
  5. Linda Grant employs a unique narrative style throughout We Had it So Good, switching perspectives within the same chapter and dedicating entire chapters to the first-person narration of Grace.  How did the shifting voice affect your reading?  Did you feel you gained greater insight into Grace and the others?
  6. Grace maintains that she is more liberated and more in touch with the world than Ivan, Stephen, and Andrea.  Is there something to envy about her lifestyle?  Is there something to pity?
  7. National identity plays an important role in the book.  Discuss how nationality influences each character. Consider Stephen’s Americanism in England, Si’s emigrant history, Andrea’s trip to America, and Stephen’s mother’s Cuban idealism in comparison to Grace’s views.
  8. How did Stephen and Andrea change from young hippies smoking on the lawn into a successful BBC producer and a respected psychotherapist? How does the couple handle this success? What do you think their former selves would think of their current lives in the “blur of middle age and child rearing”?
  9. On page 320, as Stephen reflects on their youthful, utopian values he asks Ivan: “But most of it was dross.  What did we accomplish?”  Ivan replies, “We’re all condemned to live on our own times, our little period of history.”  Do you agree with Stephen? Was anything actually accomplished? Was there some lasting validity from their beliefs that helped shape their adult lives?
  10. Discuss romantic relationships and the nature of love in the narrative.  Consider Stephen/Andrea, Stephen’s infidelity, Ivan/Simone, Max/Cheryl, and Marianne/Janek.  What makes a lasting love?  What ruins it?
  11. The friendship between Grace and Andrea is one of the key relationships in the book. Describe their relationship in particular and, more generally, the importance and role of female friendship in women’s lives. What do you think draws Grace and Andrea to one another? Discuss their friendship in relation to the end of the book.
  12. Did the meaning of the title, We Had It So Good, change for you after you finished reading? Why or why not? Do Stephen and Andrea appreciate the good fortune of their upbringing, education, and “moment in history”? 
  13. Why is Stephen unable to accept Andrea’s sickness and imminent death?  Why does he take solace in the Internet? 
  14. On page 205, Stephen tells his children that the whole point of 60s culture was to live an “authentic life.”  Does anyone in the novel achieve this?  According to Stephen, what makes something authentic?  Is the past just a narrative/story?


  1. Make a list of the ideals and beliefs you held when you were young.  Include political leanings, theories, and doctrines you may have subscribed to.  Discuss with your book club where you stand on those issues now, and how long you maintained these ideas about the world. Do any of these notions still appeal to you?
  2. Read Linda Grant’s Man-Booker short-listed novel The Clothes on Their Backs, about a young, sheltered girl’s strong desire to live and experience live more fully after she meets her charismatic uncle.  What themes seem to prevail in Grant’s writing?
  3. Perform your own photo experiment and try to capture the things that fascinate you in a picture.  Share your photos with your book club and discuss the nature of Marianne’s work, and her choice of subjects.
  4. Visit someplace foreign to you.  Document your feelings upon first arriving.  Is there a point at which you assimilate?  Do you always feel like an outsider?  If you’ve moved from where you grew up, visit your place of origin.  Do the myths and perspectives you held about that locale still hold true?  Discuss how time changes your view of the past and present.

About The Author

Photo Credit: Judah Passow

Linda Grant is a novelist and journalist. She won the Orange Prize for Fiction in 2000 and the Lettre Ulysses Prize for the Art of Reportage in 2006. Her most recent novel, The Clothes on Their Backs, was shortlisted for the Man Booker Prize in 2008. She writes for The Guardian, The Telegraph, and Vogue.

Product Details

  • Publisher: Scribner (April 3, 2012)
  • Length: 352 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781451617450

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